Comments on: Wife vs. Slave- The Cage Match

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 21 May 2009 16:26:02 +0000

Hey Kaya, checkin in. How are things w/ you? Im working on an LJ post because so much has happened I can’t even begin to say here. I know exactly what you mean by kicking and screaming.. heh.

By: lc

lc — Mon, 18 May 2009 11:57:08 +0000

Ahhhh…i followed a link from my stats page, here…perhaps something that could have been asked on my blog.

As far as kaya’s post…i agree with you, how can you refuse when you are already owned…it is just an addition to the relationship you already have…IMO.

And to answer becker’s question…It is complicated…there are children involved…it is a very difficult situation, that has to work for now, the way it is. Feel free to leave a comment over at my blog…we don’t bite. lol (well i don’t anyway…JB is another story)

(((hugs)))
lc

By: becker

becker — Sun, 17 May 2009 20:50:35 +0000

I understand you but how do you take this situation.

Another blog I read the woman is married but can’t get anything like she wants/needs from hubby so she found her Dom/Master in someone else and the way she talks about him and the way she is connected to him I seriously get confused as to how she can stay married to vanilla hubby

her blog is here. http://waiting4him.wordpress.com/

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 17 May 2009 18:48:01 +0000

Seriously? So you live where? In the Sudan?

So you didn’t accept his collar,he collared you? And you cannot ever leave your Master? Ever?

That is so online Gor.

Seriously.

By: Zille Defeu

Zille Defeu — Sun, 17 May 2009 01:17:26 +0000

I’m also ignoring the 5,000 comments ahead of mine, so apologies (but, um, I guess not really, since I couldn’t be bothered to read and check!) if I’m repeating someone else….

The difference for us is simply in the eyes of the law. I “married” my Master in my mind when I agreed to be his slave (which makes it very awkward that it was on our first proper date — don’t ask about the *improper* ones! — and I was ostensibly involved with someone else at that time!) … however, the law didn’t recognize that relationship: just us.

Once we got married, he became the person with real legal rights to me — he is the one who gets called in an emergency, he gets all my stuff if I die, etc. That does make a real difference: a wonderful one that only added to our M/s.

Of course, the fact that I really, actually promised “to honour and to love, to obey and to serve” him … that did make our marriage ceremony somewhat more relevant (to M/s, not love!) than some peoples…!

Anyway, I’m just delighted I get both!

By: kay

kay — Sat, 16 May 2009 19:40:40 +0000

you may be over this topic already or may have answered it in one of the 104 comments before mine (sorry, couldn’t read them all) but you say that without M/s you and him wouldn’t be together. A while back though, you were seriously wondering (theoretically or otherwise) what would happen if M/s was no longer a part of your lives. What if he said one day that he didn’t want to do it anymore? Could you just throw everything you have with him away? Or be vanilla like he wants?

By: cantilena

cantilena — Fri, 15 May 2009 14:21:05 +0000

PS. Meant ‘bottoming from above’ in that post. Duh.

By: cantilena

cantilena — Fri, 15 May 2009 14:16:02 +0000

This is where I get totally tripped up. LOL.

If it’s HIS pleasure to see HER pleasure, how does that make him a service top? If he was doing something for her, but not necessarily enjoying it or the effects… isn’t that more along the lines of bottoming from below?

If a Dom seeks his own gratification through that of his sub… what’s the biggie? How is that so different from seeking his own gratification through something she hates?

(BTW, I have a hard time with the whole term “service top” in the first place, so please forgive me… probably just reacting.)

-canti

By: Shannah

Shannah — Fri, 15 May 2009 13:47:29 +0000

I believe the reason that marriage should be “optional” is because it is a LEGAL binding agreement that effects more than just the relationship but other thing like insurance, legal rights of someone passes away etc. When your just M/s if it ends you dont have any rights legally were as if a marriage ends you do, expecially if there are children involved.
So when it come to the intimate relationship of a couple, no it doesnt make a difference, but because of the legalitize of the situation I believe that marriage should always be a discussion not a demand. Just my 2 cents…

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 14 May 2009 23:58:02 +0000

I guess it would depend on the people themselves, but the way I view the slave being forced into marriage is far different than slavery itself. Both should be choices made consciously. Also, marriage has legal ramifications and obligations that may make it difficult and even impossible to have a slave forced into it…

Not that M/s is less important, or not as serious of a comittment, but a slave being forced into marriage just doesn’t sit right with me, even if it is logical as you’ve potrayed it in this post.