What I’ve ordered so far:
“In This House; A Domestic Discipline Collection”
“The Control Book”
“Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus”
“Domestic Discipline”
“Master/Slave”
“Carrie’s Story: An Erotic S/M Novel”
“The Loving Dominant”
“The Surrendered Wife”
Is anyone up for a kinky book exchange program? I would be! I’d love to be involved in something where we mail books back and forth to each other instead of having to buy all of them. These prices add up!
So many of the suggestions I want to read, but unless we really could get a mail program going, they’ll have to wait until the next time Master grants me an Amazon shopping spree. 
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Tuesday February 5th, 2008 9:13am
I have Carrie’s Story
Penguin got if for me as a gift for my birthday a few years ago. You know, there’s a sequel to it. It’s called “Safe Word.” Haven’t gotten to read it yet though.
And if I had cash, I’d totally be into a kinky book exhange
Dang, girl! You did go on a spree! That’s awesome.
i’m so freakin’ hard on my books (read in the bath – so they’re all swollen, highlight stuff, write in the margins, dog-ear pages) it makes me ashamed. i really love books too! But, it makes me a poor candidate for a book exchange.
A few years ago i belonged to a local group for submissives (i even took a shot at running it for about a year!) and we had a terrific lending library. i was careful with those books.
You should totally do an online book-club! Give everyone a couple week’s notice of which book, then some time for reading, and then online discussion! Okay… just an idea (and big talk from someone who doesn’t have to do the work) – but it gave me happy pants.
I had “the surrendered wife” (Laura Doyles, I believe). It pissed me off. Frankly, if you can avoid reading it, do. I disagree with loads of what she’s said, and grudgingly agree with some.
One of the things that pissed me off was her no opinion policy. Basically, no matter how far he’s driving wrong, even thoguh you crossed the state line, never ever point that out to him. Even if he asks, only say “Whatever you want”. Just mentioning that to my Husband made him cringe and ask me to chuck it out the window.
Further, she says to not tell him what you’re doing (submitting) until after 6 months.
Let him handle the economy too! He’ll suddenly become generous and give you food money, give you money for massages and manicures, and other knicknacks. You’ll have a plentiful allowance, if you just let him deal with it! Being submissive is a allaround cure for marriage issues!
Uh. Honestly. It’s not what she says, but HOW she says it. The book pissed me off.
“Surrendering to Marriage” was enormously better, I think. I had sub-AHA’s reading that one.
I’m in on a book circle, all though I don’t own any books at the moment. I’m dying to read these too, though.
I’ll also recomend “Becoming a slave” (something among those lines), which was awsome in someways, plain stupid in others and mostly… good.
I just checked the Surrendered Wife out of the library yesterday, and 60 pages into it I have the exact same opinion you do. The entire thing is a crock of shit–her criteria for a “good” husband are that you’re not being abused, nor are your children, he doesn’t have an addiction, and he’s not chronically unfaithful. If he doesn’t fit any of those criteria, you have the OMG PERFECT HUSBAND.
I like the very basics of her theory–that if you stop nagging at your partner (since obviously this applies to any and all relationships, not just husband/wife), things will get better.
I just really disagree with the way that she’s talking about her theory, the examples she uses, the amazing mind-reading husband we all apparently have, and the really odd topping-from-the-bottom vibe that I keep getting from here.
When I finish the book, I’ll blog a proper post about it. =p
It would be no problem to set up a site that was a kinky book exchange. Something where people could trade books, each paying their own shipping. So it’d be a book swap, a book for a book. That way the cost of shipping would be close to equal for each person. I’d be happy to chip in my books. They just collect dust when I get done with them.
If people are truly interested, shoot me an email and I’ll work on setting it up online!
I think there would be interest in it, luna. You wanna set something up? I don’t have the skills..lol. I know you do! It shouldn’t cost anything, or will it?
You know I would love that! What’s really funny is that I just finished a book that I thought, “I’d really like to send this to kaya!” Perfect timing!
Do you still have my address? I’ll need yours.
I think I do still have your address. You want me to email you mine?
I would totally be into an exchange. I have several “how to” books and some fiction. I think it would be fun to exchange books.
The loving Dominant is a good book, but is very BDSM101. It was alright but I kind of had to force myself to read it. However, I’d love to get my hands on Erotic Slavehood.
I’m game a book exchange!
However, the only books i have to offer is the Beauty series and Erotic Surrender.
You know … too many books not enough money to buy them all!!
Perhaps a reading/discussion group would work too?
IN!!!
kaya, you might want to check out your local used bookstore, too. they tend to have really great prices and will often carry erotica in the psychology or romance sections. even better: you can sell it right back to them if it’s not a ‘keeper’.
If “The Surrendered Wife” is anything like the people who run the website (author? I dunno)… blech. This girl I know was married and trying to learn how to submit to her husband and they told her that she was to be trained by some man she didn’t know and her husband wasn’t to have anything to do with the training and that was the only way.
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May I suggest you check Scribd for a few of those. There are quite a few kinky books on there.
Hi kaya,
Yes, please do let us know what you think of The Surrendered Wife once you’ve read it. Honestly, it creeps me out, and that is probably a topic that would consume far more attention than should be examined in your comments
. I’ve even written about it already.
That being said, I don’t regret reading it (only in paying royalties to its author!). I think it was a learning experience for me in helping to clarify what I don’t want but might tolerate, and identify an entire list of things/behaviors my husband would start punishing me for within a week. (“Where would you like to go for dinner?” “Whereever you’d like, dear.” “Stop being June Cleaver, dammit!”)
Argh. Better stop…
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I got almost that exact response! “Where do you want to eat?” “Whatever you would like.” “So how about McDonalds?” (I HATE McDonalds. He knows it.) “You know, chinese takeout sounds good…” He hates when I’m being super-sub in times he just wants a straight answer.
Oh, yes. Can we get book reviews at some point in the future?
I’d love to get in on a book exchange as well! I re-read my books whenever the mood strikes me (maybe once or twice a year), so I’d even like to get the same books back occasionally. I have at least a half-dozen. Would there be some sort of list to swap from? i.e. each person would have a “has” list and a “wants” list? I’ve never done a book exchange, so I’ll be eager to see how it works out.
Thanks, luna, for offering to set it up!
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Ha!
Surely you know that if you get into a “kinky book exchange” with the kinky minxes of the internet, you’ll wind up getting “books” that have long handles and little nails sticking out everywhere…
And we’d call that book “The Punishment Book”, right?
You know, I’ve thought about doing this exact thing with paddles. A paddle mail exchange. Think about it! One paddle making the rounds? How cool would that be! I could be spanked with the same paddle that spanked Bethie’s butt… and then on to someone else. I bet we’d all give different reviews on how it felt too.
Ahh, I amuse myself.
Kaya,
If you’re interested in exchanging books with other book lovers, you might want to sign up for a free username on bookcrossing.com. Among other things, users list books they’re looking for, or books they have to offer, and send them to each other as trades. Or maybe you could read up on bookboxes and start a kinky one, which each recipient could then swap one book out of and replace it with a new book, getting back to you with all new books. If you have more questions about the site, I’m a longtime bookcrosser, and I can explain. Just shoot me an email!
~Meg