Comments on: The more things change, the more they stay the same. http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Thu, 24 May 2012 03:52:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Chris http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13691 Chris Thu, 04 Jun 2009 03:07:44 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13691 Con #9 In the end there are a lot of things that you can get back in this life. You can lose your job, lose everything, become poor and destitute, then get a job, save money, and buy all your material things again. But time is not renewable. You will lose 4 years with Sir. And also nothing is certain in life. You could struggle 4 years and be hit by a bus the next day or he could. Con #9

In the end there are a lot of things that you can get back in this life. You can lose your job, lose everything, become poor and destitute, then get a job, save money, and buy all your material things again.

But time is not renewable. You will lose 4 years with Sir. And also nothing is certain in life. You could struggle 4 years and be hit by a bus the next day or he could.

]]> By: just_w http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13639 just_w Sun, 31 May 2009 18:17:12 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13639 Two things come to mind.... The Cunt Cupboard Living near the pretty pink haired girl with the glass scepter. Maybe I'll move to WI ..oops thats 3 Two things come to mind….

The Cunt Cupboard

Living near the pretty pink haired girl with the glass scepter.

Maybe I’ll move to WI ..oops thats 3

]]> By: Amber http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13638 Amber Sun, 31 May 2009 14:00:28 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13638 *raises hand* As someone whose husband was laid off out of the blue recently (10 years tenure at the company, top-management IT position), as close as we are and as much as I used to complain when he'd have to work late and I missed him while he was at work and how in love as we are in and how much fun it is to have a D/s relationship and so fulfilling and blah blah blah, now that he's working from home and I also work from home and we're together all day, every day... Dear GOD, doesn't the man have someplace else to GO? There really IS such a thing as "too much togetherness". How can I miss him if he won't go away? ;) (Just my two cents) :) *raises hand*

As someone whose husband was laid off out of the blue recently (10 years tenure at the company, top-management IT position), as close as we are and as much as I used to complain when he’d have to work late and I missed him while he was at work and how in love as we are in and how much fun it is to have a D/s relationship and so fulfilling and blah blah blah, now that he’s working from home and I also work from home and we’re together all day, every day…

Dear GOD, doesn’t the man have someplace else to GO?

There really IS such a thing as “too much togetherness”.

How can I miss him if he won’t go away? ;)

(Just my two cents) :)

]]> By: mamabigdog http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13637 mamabigdog Sun, 31 May 2009 07:58:37 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13637 Take the promotion and move back. It will be better for all the kids, and it will be good for Jess to be better supported by the programs there. Not to mention, you don't want to be sitting in crazy winter blizzard season with an infant who's sick. They always get sick at some point, and you don't want to be making that late night drive in the middle of a storm for 30 miles. You've already said that the relationship is stronger when you have that away time. You also talked about how the old house provided more privacy for your activities. Of course, there will be no naked gardening in the old place, but that also means you'll be able to locate and put away your outdoor Christmas decorations without waiting for spring. I bet it will be easier for you to be a grandma during the week, too, without feeling like your loyalties are torn. Once that baby comes, the game really changes. Wouldn't it be nice to be someplace more familiar and reliable? Take the promotion and move back. It will be better for all the kids, and it will be good for Jess to be better supported by the programs there. Not to mention, you don’t want to be sitting in crazy winter blizzard season with an infant who’s sick. They always get sick at some point, and you don’t want to be making that late night drive in the middle of a storm for 30 miles.

You’ve already said that the relationship is stronger when you have that away time. You also talked about how the old house provided more privacy for your activities. Of course, there will be no naked gardening in the old place, but that also means you’ll be able to locate and put away your outdoor Christmas decorations without waiting for spring.

I bet it will be easier for you to be a grandma during the week, too, without feeling like your loyalties are torn. Once that baby comes, the game really changes. Wouldn’t it be nice to be someplace more familiar and reliable?

]]> By: Ruth McGivern http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13636 Ruth McGivern Sun, 31 May 2009 00:14:17 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13636 I mostly just lurk here but I have to say, this is a situation that I do NOT envy. I hate making these big decisions. I do, however, envy the fact that it's not really your decision. Whatever ends up happening, I wish you both the best of luck! I mostly just lurk here but I have to say, this is a situation that I do NOT envy. I hate making these big decisions. I do, however, envy the fact that it’s not really your decision.

Whatever ends up happening, I wish you both the best of luck!

]]> By: Dr_BuzzCzar http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13635 Dr_BuzzCzar Sat, 30 May 2009 23:21:05 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13635 If he passes on this promotion what does that do for his chance at future advances? Some companies view failure to accept a move as "disloyalty", "not a company man/woman", etc. Hopefully, he works for a company where that isn't the culture (says the man who ended up working for a person he trained, back in his multi-national days, due to a somewhat similar situation.). If he passes on this promotion what does that do for his chance at future advances? Some companies view failure to accept a move as “disloyalty”, “not a company man/woman”, etc. Hopefully, he works for a company where that isn’t the culture (says the man who ended up working for a person he trained, back in his multi-national days, due to a somewhat similar situation.).

]]> By: DL's toy http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13634 DL's toy Sat, 30 May 2009 18:54:11 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13634 I'm not sure how anyone could turn up money with an economy like this... but i also value human relationships above and beyond money. Although you guys have been seperate before, there were some ups and downs (the element of space can help or hinder a relationship but...) The decision comes down to what's important to you both. Money or time. "People first, money/career second" OR Money or relationships "Getting a head start on that nest egg while I can- it's only temporary" That's tough. There's some good arguments on this post. I'd read you even if you wrote about your church service 16 years ago when you were 10 years old. lol xoxx I’m not sure how anyone could turn up money with an economy like this… but i also value human relationships above and beyond money. Although you guys have been seperate before, there were some ups and downs (the element of space can help or hinder a relationship but…)

The decision comes down to what’s important to you both.

Money or time.
“People first, money/career second”

OR

Money or relationships
“Getting a head start on that nest egg while I can- it’s only temporary”

That’s tough.

There’s some good arguments on this post.

I’d read you even if you wrote about your church service 16 years ago when you were 10 years old. lol

xoxx

]]> By: Joe's Slut http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13633 Joe's Slut Sat, 30 May 2009 14:37:40 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13633 I don't envy you your decision! I couldn't stand the separation, even for the payoff. Do you know that folks here in CA routinely make two hour one way commutes daily? It's not ideal, but it's doable. What about a compromise? He comes home one or two days during the week? I don’t envy you your decision! I couldn’t stand the separation, even for the payoff.

Do you know that folks here in CA routinely make two hour one way commutes daily? It’s not ideal, but it’s doable. What about a compromise? He comes home one or two days during the week?

]]> By: Emilie http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13632 Emilie Sat, 30 May 2009 06:48:54 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13632 My thought is that you should stay where you are. I totally agree with someone that pointed out that people are more important than money. Relationships are more important than money, too! Maybe you should both go back and read your blog from when you lived apart before...how did you feel then? Did you function well apart? Did you like being apart? Do you have fond memories of that time? Could you do that again for 4+ years? I'm sure that you guys will be fine no matter what you decide, but I figured I would jump on the "stay where you are" bandwagon!!! My thought is that you should stay where you are. I totally agree with someone that pointed out that people are more important than money. Relationships are more important than money, too!

Maybe you should both go back and read your blog from when you lived apart before…how did you feel then? Did you function well apart? Did you like being apart? Do you have fond memories of that time? Could you do that again for 4+ years?

I’m sure that you guys will be fine no matter what you decide, but I figured I would jump on the “stay where you are” bandwagon!!!

]]> By: Lexi http://underhishand.com/the-more-things-change-the-more-they-stay-the-same#comment-13631 Lexi Sat, 30 May 2009 05:21:28 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2860#comment-13631 I think you should sell your spare toys, rather the non-insertables, to your loyal readers. *nod* I think you should sell your spare toys, rather the non-insertables, to your loyal readers. *nod*

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