“If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.”
Saturday, July 19th, 2008On the long and boring drive to retrieve my children from Granny’s house today I gave lots of thought to the comments given to my expectation/desire dilemma of the past week. I cannot reply to each comment individually, but many of you were saying much the same thing so I think I can reply appropriately [...]
“If you must play, decide on three things at the start: the rules of the game, the stakes, and the quitting time”
Monday, July 14th, 2008(First, I want to apologize for not being present sometimes when the conversation in the comments gets as interesting as it often does. Well, I don’t apologize for not being here when I’m off being where He’s told me to be, but I do feel like I sometimes put something out there and then sort [...]
“Power without abuse loses its charm”
Monday, June 23rd, 2008(apparently yanked from a seminar about identifying healthy BDSM from domestic abuse.)
BDSM activities are ALWAYS Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Abuse is NEVER safe, NEVER sane, and NEVER consensual.BDSM follows established rules. Abuse has no rules.
BDSM is negotiated for the safety of both partners. Abuse is NEVER negotiated.
BDSM activities are used for mutual pleasure. Abuse is [...]
Reactance - backwards.
Sunday, June 8th, 2008The theory of reactance in internal enslavement goes something like this:
Direct reassertion of the freedom through behaviour - Attempting direct restoration of the threatened freedom
Greater liking for threatened behaviour -When a freedom is threatened, subjects usually begin to want it more than before.
Indirect reassertion of the freedom - When a freedom cannot be regained directly [...]
Y’ piss me off, ya fuckin’ jerk, y’get on my nerves
Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008Why people get on my nerves example number 946.
Q: Have you ever beaten a masochist, submissive, or otherwise, when you were emotionally charged or angry? Have you eve been beaten by a sadist, in such a sitation?
Perfectly legitimate question. With perfectly predictable answers from the “masses” of bubble-gum players.
A: I wouldn’t take out my anger [...]
Posty McPost-It Says…
Wednesday, May 21st, 2008I’m bored. And alone. And I have had all of the conversations about the lunch room lady, who’s breaking up with who (whom?), heavy metal bands, which teacher is the worst and some people’s fashion sense - or lack thereof - to last me a day.
So I shall bring myself here, where the [...]
“Don’t expect an omlette if you can’t even be bothered to whip the eggs!”
Wednesday, May 21st, 2008Julie asked “is S getting what he needs as well? What is it that he is seeking? Does he want you to “submit” and do the service things you loathe?”
And my truly honest answer is - I don’t know. I *think* I know and I operate under thinking I know.. and then I find out [...]
Demographics
Tuesday, May 20th, 2008In the four days since the ass fucking clip has been added to the clip store, it’s become the most popular clip, selling more in these 4 days than any of the other clips. Call me crazy but I think people like to see it.
Which leads me to speculate on the attraction to it. [...]
To Punish or Not To Punish. That is the Question.
Sunday, May 18th, 2008I’ve read each response to the punishment post with avid interest. I’m endlessly fascinated with the differences in how people live this life. I’m even more fascinated by how quickly some are to criticize that which they don’t understand or incorporate into their own relationship. Myself included, though I don’t always see it as I [...]
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”
Saturday, May 3rd, 2008I’d forgotten what a stickler Master is about the clock when He’s away. Things like telling me to call at a certain time or be online at a certain time. To be told to return a phone call in one hour means His phone had better be ringing in precisely one hour. If He’s feeling incredibly [...]
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