Comments on: Rewiring the brain http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2 The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:13:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15047 Anonymous Fri, 27 Jan 2006 00:29:03 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15047 <p>kaya -- What you will do with what you are calling "rewiring" will not only serve your Master better, it will, ultimately serve your children. They are to grow to be not children but fully realized, fully functioning adults. To do that, they need to be able and confident people who know that they can take responsibility for the activities of daily living. It is not too much to expect them to handle the things that you are trying to do for them. You are sending them messages that convey that you think they are not capable of taking care of these details. How demeaning is that? You can assure your young people that you know they are good, capaple, responsible, growing human persons. To do that, you need to let go of your need to be "mommy." Luckily, you have another role to fulfill. All that is needed is for you to fully make the transition with this rewiring. I wish you and all of them great good luck. You will all be happier and stronger when you make the leap. </p> <p>hugs, swan</p> kaya — What you will do with what you are calling “rewiring” will not only serve your Master better, it will, ultimately serve your children. They are to grow to be not children but fully realized, fully functioning adults. To do that, they need to be able and confident people who know that they can take responsibility for the activities of daily living. It is not too much to expect them to handle the things that you are trying to do for them. You are sending them messages that convey that you think they are not capable of taking care of these details. How demeaning is that? You can assure your young people that you know they are good, capaple, responsible, growing human persons. To do that, you need to let go of your need to be “mommy.” Luckily, you have another role to fulfill. All that is needed is for you to fully make the transition with this rewiring. I wish you and all of them great good luck. You will all be happier and stronger when you make the leap.

hugs, swan

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15046 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 19:18:30 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15046 <p>An at home slave! That’s just great *lol*<br /> I am a stay at home mum and here in Sweden it is a very provocative thing to be and people often gets upset when I tell them it is what I am. Maybe I’ll just tell them I am a stay at home slave instead, that should keep them quiet :)<br /> I want to spend most of my time serving my Master but with small children at home it is almost impossible. Sometimes I am so exhausted when Master comes home from work that He actually has to take care of me instead of the other way around.<br /> That really sucks. </p> <p>northerngirl<br /> http://loveandsubmission.blogspot.com/</p> An at home slave! That’s just great *lol*
I am a stay at home mum and here in Sweden it is a very provocative thing to be and people often gets upset when I tell them it is what I am. Maybe I’ll just tell them I am a stay at home slave instead, that should keep them quiet :)
I want to spend most of my time serving my Master but with small children at home it is almost impossible. Sometimes I am so exhausted when Master comes home from work that He actually has to take care of me instead of the other way around.
That really sucks.

northerngirl
http://loveandsubmission.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15045 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 15:16:42 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15045 <p>i don't know if i have kids in my future...but your post makes me think about it. i'm sure it's not easy to be a mom and a slave at the same time... i'll take this chance to take a look to my future. Thanx and hugs,<br /> schiava - http://schiava.blogspot.com</p> i don’t know if i have kids in my future…but your post makes me think about it. i’m sure it’s not easy to be a mom and a slave at the same time… i’ll take this chance to take a look to my future. Thanx and hugs,
schiava – http://schiava.blogspot.com

]]> By: hislilstar http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15044 hislilstar Thu, 26 Jan 2006 12:20:32 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15044 <p>(((HUGS))))</p> <p>Kaya,</p> <p> I read this in both places and the comments, I took it in and re-read it again. First I want to remind you that this is your journal and you can write what ever you feel. I also know with emotions things get bobbled. My first thought was that perhaps you were getting attacked a bit because you voiced some issues.</p> <p>I have been around the same block, Kids etc. If someone hasn't done it (I'm not saying anyone here!) its a very hard balance one we lost. For us I can become non-functional after a hard scene. I ramble and am also in the "Just do something" mode. I have wandered about the house asking for things not even remembering what I asked for. I know for us the harder stuff has to be at a time when he is able to help put me back together or during a time when I am not the soul parent in the house. So for the times he had to be gone we kept it lighter and made our dreams stronger of what we would have one day when it was just us, only us. Well, and the dogs LOL.</p> <p>Any relationship comes down to balance and finding it. Everyones children are different. Kids run off and don't tell, yes thats not ok.... expected BUT something I agree cant happen. Why do we do what we do, I do more because I want it done now!!, I'm not patient I don't want the argument, I want it done so I can do what I want later on. I do more then I should. I need to remember I am training some day adults again a balance because they are still children with faults all of there own.They did not ask me to take them on this journey , They cant hear that I cant do this* because my endorphins have me all fucked up. I cant tell them that the streaks down my face were intentional, and warranted. Instead I protect like a mother, I say I stubbed my toe on THEIR shoes they left out again, and low and behold they pick the damn things up. They cant have mom injured what good am I then LOL.</p> <p>You are on a journey sometimes it will work sometimes it wont. BUT you are entitled to speak your gut even when no one else gets it.</p> <p>You are not a SUPER WOMAN. You were/are a mother-slave-amazing person each second of each day.</p> <p>Trial and Error sweetie, and when you learn all the secrets do tell, so when I'm at this point I can see what worked.</p> <p>In Friendship<br /> tia-hislilstar</p> (((HUGS))))

Kaya,

I read this in both places and the comments, I took it in and re-read it again. First I want to remind you that this is your journal and you can write what ever you feel. I also know with emotions things get bobbled. My first thought was that perhaps you were getting attacked a bit because you voiced some issues.

I have been around the same block, Kids etc. If someone hasn’t done it (I’m not saying anyone here!) its a very hard balance one we lost. For us I can become non-functional after a hard scene. I ramble and am also in the “Just do something” mode. I have wandered about the house asking for things not even remembering what I asked for. I know for us the harder stuff has to be at a time when he is able to help put me back together or during a time when I am not the soul parent in the house. So for the times he had to be gone we kept it lighter and made our dreams stronger of what we would have one day when it was just us, only us. Well, and the dogs LOL.

Any relationship comes down to balance and finding it. Everyones children are different. Kids run off and don’t tell, yes thats not ok…. expected BUT something I agree cant happen. Why do we do what we do, I do more because I want it done now!!, I’m not patient I don’t want the argument, I want it done so I can do what I want later on. I do more then I should. I need to remember I am training some day adults again a balance because they are still children with faults all of there own.They did not ask me to take them on this journey , They cant hear that I cant do this* because my endorphins have me all fucked up. I cant tell them that the streaks down my face were intentional, and warranted. Instead I protect like a mother, I say I stubbed my toe on THEIR shoes they left out again, and low and behold they pick the damn things up. They cant have mom injured what good am I then LOL.

You are on a journey sometimes it will work sometimes it wont. BUT you are entitled to speak your gut even when no one else gets it.

You are not a SUPER WOMAN. You were/are a mother-slave-amazing person each second of each day.

Trial and Error sweetie, and when you learn all the secrets do tell, so when I’m at this point I can see what worked.

In Friendship
tia-hislilstar

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15043 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 09:44:18 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15043 <p>You're doing great!</p> <p>Kaya ... don't forget - you are a parent and a mother and that is by far the hardest JOB in the world and you have 3 kids. I admire your ability to be able to juggle so much in your life - something most people cannot do. Don't be so hard on yourself. I have the utmost respect and admiration for the job you do!!</p> <p>- Jani</p> You’re doing great!

Kaya … don’t forget – you are a parent and a mother and that is by far the hardest JOB in the world and you have 3 kids. I admire your ability to be able to juggle so much in your life – something most people cannot do. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I have the utmost respect and admiration for the job you do!!

- Jani

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15042 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 06:50:35 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15042 <p>Kids, teenagers, young adults</p> <p>You probably didn't read my today's post, but it was almost about the same subject... My 20 year's old is living with us since a year... and he is taking so much freedom or liberty, not sure which one is right to use, in the place...<br /> As I wrote, I got up late this morning, to find the kitchen in a mess...<br /> I was pretty upset... After I clean everything before going to bed and finding the place worst in the morning is killing me...<br /> And he told me about his friend being murdered on her first night at a new ob in gaz station... what am I gonna say now?? I shutted up...<br /> Later on, I asked Him to pick the little one to school, after my therapy, I was exhausted... and he was with a friend who have a car... He replied that he wasn't in the mood at all... I got angry... Oh!! A friend you were not seeing much anymore dioed, and we have to stop live??? Good... just another very good reason to sit on your fat ass... What turned into an argument... him seeing me heartless and disrepectful... me thinking aout the little I ask him on a weekly basis that is never done by him anyway...<br /> I thought about kicking him out... because he is taking advantage... We moved on december 10... he is not done with his 3 boxes... He is receiving friends after we go to bed... he is not working, not going to school... what ever we are asking him to do is never done on time...<br /> I'm just lost... yes, those friends at home late at night are interfering in our life... yes, he is not showing any interest about living as a part of the family... Me and Him are pretty fed up... but I just don't know what to do...<br /> Sure... put the break while it is still time... I feel like I didn't do it and that I'm paying a huge price for that mistake...<br /> Good luck!!!<br /> SeaRabbit</p> Kids, teenagers, young adults

You probably didn’t read my today’s post, but it was almost about the same subject… My 20 year’s old is living with us since a year… and he is taking so much freedom or liberty, not sure which one is right to use, in the place…
As I wrote, I got up late this morning, to find the kitchen in a mess…
I was pretty upset… After I clean everything before going to bed and finding the place worst in the morning is killing me…
And he told me about his friend being murdered on her first night at a new ob in gaz station… what am I gonna say now?? I shutted up…
Later on, I asked Him to pick the little one to school, after my therapy, I was exhausted… and he was with a friend who have a car… He replied that he wasn’t in the mood at all… I got angry… Oh!! A friend you were not seeing much anymore dioed, and we have to stop live??? Good… just another very good reason to sit on your fat ass… What turned into an argument… him seeing me heartless and disrepectful… me thinking aout the little I ask him on a weekly basis that is never done by him anyway…
I thought about kicking him out… because he is taking advantage… We moved on december 10… he is not done with his 3 boxes… He is receiving friends after we go to bed… he is not working, not going to school… what ever we are asking him to do is never done on time…
I’m just lost… yes, those friends at home late at night are interfering in our life… yes, he is not showing any interest about living as a part of the family… Me and Him are pretty fed up… but I just don’t know what to do…
Sure… put the break while it is still time… I feel like I didn’t do it and that I’m paying a huge price for that mistake…
Good luck!!!
SeaRabbit

]]> By: ravenna_amorosa http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15041 ravenna_amorosa Thu, 26 Jan 2006 05:55:40 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15041 <p>It just struck me, darling, that your master has given you something pretty amazing and wonderful: a clear vision of the rest of your life as his slave. And it's a life that, as hard and scary as parts of it are, resonates in your soul, fills your deepest needs, makes you say *yes yes yes* with all your heart. (Please tell me if I'm wrong, babe, but I don't *think* I am.) Most of us don't have that, never are given that. Most people stumble through life and make it up as they go along, no plan, no vision, no leadership. I have part of it, and I know I'm so much luckier than most: I know who I love, what I am, who owns me, who I'll belong to for the rest of my life. But my master and I are wrestling together with a lot of unknowns too; when to start a family, how many kids(!!!), where to live, how to make it all fit together with this strange and beautiful life, what our life will be like five years on, or ten. You know so much more about your life than I know about mine, mine is still full of mysteries. You know your kids! I haven't even *met* my children yet. They'll be his children too. Part of me is just dying to meet them. (I think he'll want me to start making their acquaintance in a couple of years, tops.) </p> <p>Sorry, I'm rambling, and this probably isn't what you expected to hear, but I'm a little awestruck. It's hard, what he's doing to you, but it's simple, too. Isn't it? You know where you're going because it's where he's taking you, and even if any given day sucks and you're stuck in the swamp of daily demands and headaches and shit, you can still look up and see (I hope you can see) your master's vision for you, getting a little closer every day.</p> <p>Well, that got way too deep in a hurry, huh? I gotta go open my master's wine, and you gotta go whip those lazy-ass kids into shape. Thanks for writing this, darling, even if I'm all wet about this stuff you always make me think (and laugh).</p> <p>xoxoxoxo</p> It just struck me, darling, that your master has given you something pretty amazing and wonderful: a clear vision of the rest of your life as his slave. And it’s a life that, as hard and scary as parts of it are, resonates in your soul, fills your deepest needs, makes you say *yes yes yes* with all your heart. (Please tell me if I’m wrong, babe, but I don’t *think* I am.) Most of us don’t have that, never are given that. Most people stumble through life and make it up as they go along, no plan, no vision, no leadership. I have part of it, and I know I’m so much luckier than most: I know who I love, what I am, who owns me, who I’ll belong to for the rest of my life. But my master and I are wrestling together with a lot of unknowns too; when to start a family, how many kids(!!!), where to live, how to make it all fit together with this strange and beautiful life, what our life will be like five years on, or ten. You know so much more about your life than I know about mine, mine is still full of mysteries. You know your kids! I haven’t even *met* my children yet. They’ll be his children too. Part of me is just dying to meet them. (I think he’ll want me to start making their acquaintance in a couple of years, tops.)

Sorry, I’m rambling, and this probably isn’t what you expected to hear, but I’m a little awestruck. It’s hard, what he’s doing to you, but it’s simple, too. Isn’t it? You know where you’re going because it’s where he’s taking you, and even if any given day sucks and you’re stuck in the swamp of daily demands and headaches and shit, you can still look up and see (I hope you can see) your master’s vision for you, getting a little closer every day.

Well, that got way too deep in a hurry, huh? I gotta go open my master’s wine, and you gotta go whip those lazy-ass kids into shape. Thanks for writing this, darling, even if I’m all wet about this stuff you always make me think (and laugh).

xoxoxoxo

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15039 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 02:45:53 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15039 <p>While I'm not a mom, I can understand what you feel. You have a submissive personality - so do I. I think we both try to please everyone, which doesn't work. A submissive must please one person - her master. It's not your job to constantly please or submit to the wishes of your kids (or anyone else, for that matter). Especially when doing that interferes with pleasing your husband, the one person who deserves your submission. Thanks for the food for thought - definitely an interesting read.<br /> -M</p> While I’m not a mom, I can understand what you feel. You have a submissive personality – so do I. I think we both try to please everyone, which doesn’t work. A submissive must please one person – her master. It’s not your job to constantly please or submit to the wishes of your kids (or anyone else, for that matter). Especially when doing that interferes with pleasing your husband, the one person who deserves your submission. Thanks for the food for thought – definitely an interesting read.
-M

]]> By: ricks_toy http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15038 ricks_toy Thu, 26 Jan 2006 02:07:46 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15038 <p>reflections suck. but sometimes we learn from them and that's really awesome. thank you for sharing about your revelations today. good luck with getting back to where you're going. </p> <p>~ fucktoy</p> reflections suck. but sometimes we learn from them and that’s really awesome. thank you for sharing about your revelations today. good luck with getting back to where you’re going.

~ fucktoy

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15037 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jan 2006 00:58:31 +0000 http://underhishand.com/rewiring-the-brain-2#comment-15037 <p>kaya,<br /> I just wanted to leave you another message saying I mentioned you in my blog entry today. You really gave me something to think about this morning. Thanks for such a good blog post!<br /> padme</p> kaya,
I just wanted to leave you another message saying I mentioned you in my blog entry today. You really gave me something to think about this morning. Thanks for such a good blog post!
padme

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