Mr. CrankyPants
Master is some kind of cranky today, and, for a change, it’s not ME he’s cranky with.
It’s nobody that I can figure. Male version of pms, I think. (and isn’t it the strangest coincidence that man-pms comes directly after girl-pms has finished?? Weird, idn’t it? ;-) )
So anyway, I’m trying to just stay outta the way and keep my head down (dk will get that one).
It’s hard though because I feed off of his moods and it’s difficult to remain my usual happy-go-lucky self (shut up! I am too happy! GRRR!) and not become just as cranky as he is.
How do you all handle cranky-ass dominants? I mean, the vanilla wifey part of me is sitting here thinking “what the FUCK is your problem?? Jeeeeezus, man.” Were I on an equal level I might advise him to go take a nappy-poo.
(by the time he reads this he won’t be cranky anymore and he will just laugh and laugh and laugh at ‘nappy-poo’. I hope. Are you laughing Master? Hahaha?
I love you. *sweet smile*)
This would be a good day to have a job to go to.
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Saturday February 21st, 2009 3:04pm
I tend to pretty much behave like the dog. I just want to make myself as small as possible & go crawl under the bed to I don’t end up on the receiving end.
blech.
I wonder if I could stuff my fat ass under the bed. :/
I just stay away from him when he’s pissy
“So anyway, I’m trying to just stay outta the way and keep my head down (dk will get that one).”
Yeah kaya. Watch out for those flying cans!
Eh. When he’s being all cranky I bite him until he promises to stop acting like such an enemabag. (So much more fun to say than douchebag!)
Like you, I bitch about it on my blog and/or journal. Then I go clean something or find some way to be otherwise occupied. Sometimes I do put my foot in my mouth, but I do try not to.
when daddy’s in a bad mood, i make cookies.
i *should* probably give him a blowjob, too.
I actually try to keep most of it OFF of my journal, because he tends to feel like I’m slamming him, and I don’t want him to feel that way (even if it wasn’t my intent in the first place).
Sometimes it’s difficult, because my LJ IS my place to vent.
I try to stay out of the way, but be extra pleasing. I’ll take it upon myself to get him something to drink and give it to him, instead of asking if he wants something. I’ll make a dessert and hand him a spoonful of dough or a plate of dessert and walk away without a word.
I really DO tend to be very happy, and sometimes I get pissy that he’s such a ‘downer.’ I’ll ask him if he wants to talk; I can handle hearing no, I can’t handle him telling me he’s fine when it’s obvious he’s not…that’s when I’m sure I did something wrong myself.
And, I fret. I do extra chores when he’s crabby, too, to keep myself occupied. Visible, but out of the way. Basically, I just go with the flow…
I have a crankypants Master on my hands most mornings and especially when there’s somewhere he needs to be. I just try to ignore his mood (not ignoring what he wants, just not trying to cheer him out of it…doesn’t work) and do everything I can so nothing I do puts him in a worse mood. He’ll usually work his way out of it. If it does continue though, like you, it’s hard to keep my mood up when he’s down.
Kaya,
I’m kind of surprised no one’s suggested this yet, but maybe being dominant gives me a different perspective. have you thought of offering yourself as someone/something to vent himself on (violently)?
Dave
When M is pissy, I just stay the hell out of his way. Frequently, I will make him food/bring him a drink/send him a text message asking if he wants a back rub.
The trick for M is figuring out whether it’s a grumpy where he wants to be left alone, or a grumpy where he wants me around so he can vent. Once I’ve got that figured, it’s usually smooth sailing. (Or at least, as smooth sailing as a grump can be.)
I do everything I can to cheer him up (cook him yummy foods, endless cups of tea, be as adorable and cheerful as I know how, etc.) because his moods really affect me, and when he’s cranky I go around feeling like a beaten dog (not “beaten” in the good sense, mind you!).
However, that seldom works, and what usually happens is spend the whole day doing everything I can think of to cheer him up, and then by the end I feel exhausted and miserable, and my defences are lowest, and he says something unintentionally mean because he’s still in a foul mood, and I start crying, and then he goes into “Daddy mode” to comfort me, and realizes he’s been being a bit of an ass, and then the bad mood is all over. This also leads either to a really stellar cuddle, or some sweet and intimate sex, so it’s all good, in the end!
But while it’s still going on — whew! — there’s nothing so miserable-making as a cranky Top!!!
I do one of two things.
1. RUN! HIDE! And when He finds me? Pretend to be all docile and shit.
And if that doesn’t work:
2. Hand Him some sort of ouchie thing. I gotta start doing more of that actually.
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