More Q&A
you had mentioned that you had once had your nipples pierced i think…when and why did you change your mind and take them out?
I had them pierced probably 6 years ago. I had them just about 6 months I guess. I took them out because I like nipple play too much and they were fucking it all up. They were too sensitive after the piercings – and it took close to a year *after* taking out the rings for that sensitivity to go away and for me to be able to handle clamps and pinching again.
How much do the kids know of your and your Masters activities?
Kids are a popular topic when it comes to M/s. My goodness.
They know I generally defer to his decisions. They know I wait on him hand and foot. They know he’s bossy and demanding and that I’m happy to do it. They know that I have and use sex toys and they know that we’re “kinky”. They do not see, hear (much), or know any specific details about that kink. They do not know that it’s a formal Master/slave thing.
If they don’t know, how do you hide the obvious results?
Any marks I get are in places that clothing easily covers. The occasion “oops” mark can be easily dismissed because I really am a klutz.
If they do know are they ever involved?
Um. No. A big fat N-O no. No no no no no.
I have a question: where is Magdala? She used to comment often, and I think she is a great friend of yours, right? I am usually a little annoyed by the number of comments of the kind: “my master does the same!” or “you must live in my house!” I really mean no offense, it’s just that they sound natural when girls are talking, but in writing it’s just repetitive and makes it hard to sort through the comments to find the ones that are really offering some thought material. Magdala often commented something different from that.
That’s a good question! I think she might come around here sometimes; at least, I heard from her a few months ago. I guess, you know, people grow apart or move on and she’s busy doing her thing.
I miss her, too. She always did offer another perspective.
I have another question: Do you think that at least part of your attraction to degradation and forced sex may be related to you not thinking that you deserve pleasure, or don’t deserve that someone pleasure you for your own sake? I think that your recent vanilla-ish lifestyle, in which you are surprisingly satisfied could have to do with you accepting a little more that you deserve some things for yourself.
Meh. I don’t think so because I DO think I deserve pleasure. It just so happens that I find a lot of pleasure in being degraded.
As for also finding pleasure in our more recent vanilla-ish lifestyle, it could be what you said, or it could be that I’m just better at adjusting to what he’s giving me and in finding my own happiness in it, whether it’s kink or not.
What are your plans after all your children have moved out? Is the “cunt in the cage”-plan still your future goal, or has it changed in some way?
I think it has probably changed some, but the basics of it are still the same. Um.. speaking soley out of what I think I know and understanding that Master could come along and contradict everything I’m saying here… I think we will probably have a pretty good mix of cunt in a cage and housewife-gardener-chicken farmer slave. He definitely is still looking forward to and planning on some serious isolation/caging/thorough head-messing fun, but when he doesn’t want that and he wants me to function as his workmate and wife, I’ll be expected to pull myself up by my bootstraps and work it out.
Or.. not. As we keep growing and evolving, who the hell KNOWS what might happen.
If you were to author a book about your life, what would it be entitled?
Tess’s Tale – Relearning Life Master’s Way. A consensual bdsm slave’s true story.
How Tess Got Her Groove On
Tess: Destroying Feminism One Spanking At A Time
“Yer doing it wrong!” – How NOT To Do BDSM (according to the interwebz.)
Kinky Kooking with Kaya or Kinky Krafting with Kaya
Kaya in Wonderland: Finding Pleasure in Pain.
Great Expectations: Learning to Let Go of Them
Sense and Sensibility- in Slavery
The Secret Garden: Gardening Naked- and how best to avoid mosquito bites on your most private bits.
Would you buy it? ;-)
What is the most severe injury you have ever experienced during a session/scene moment with Sir?
I almost passed out once, purely from the pain. I was strung up by my wrists and he was doing his thing – and it was just too much. I got cold and sweaty and clammy, I started dry-heaving, I lost all muscle control and couldn’t stand up and things we getting very dark and very fuzzy- I was fainting. He got me down and sat with me with my head between my knees and then put me to bed.
I had a hematoma on my breast from a particularly wicked breast beating session. There’s been the occasional strained muscle or numb, tingly appendage for a few days – but no really serious injuries.
What is the most severe injury you’ve done to yourself by accident? (lol- my answer would creep the hell out of everyone who reads it…)
Tease. What is yours?!
I don’t think I have any. I’m fairly gentle with myself..lol
And why aren’t our Owner’s talking?
(about sharing, right? seems like I lost half of your question.)
Master has never shared me sexually with another man. He would with a woman without batting an eye, but another man is whole different ballgame.
He does let other men play with/hurt me though.
He’s protective, which I really appreciate, because the second another man’s hands are on me, I lose my words.
I am quite positive that he would LOVE to talk to your Owner – and I sincerely think you need to plan a trip here ASAP. Your Owner scares the fucking shit out of me, but I would love to give your deeply masochistic ass to my Owner. And, I’d like to watch you get fucked in the ass. *nods*
What are 3 things that turn you on that are humliating to admit?
Being used as a toilet. I hate it and it turns me right the fuck on.
Icky-yucky tasting/licking of dirty things. Makes me vomit, but turns me right the fuck on.
And- some of his future plans which, unfortunately, I am not allowed to divulge here. I’m horrified, yet, you guessed it, turned right the fuck on.
What was the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do and what lessons did you learn from it?
Sitting down in front of that board when he held a hammer and nails in his hands.
I was anticipating that the pain would be enormous. I fully expected it to be way more than I could handle. Other than attaching my hands behind my back, there was no other bondage, no securing me in place. He told me to sit and put my tits up on the board and to be still.
I’d never been that scared before and I haven’t been that scared since.
Lesson learned: He knows what I can take more than I do. I would easily let fear be my master– He masters my fears.
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Sunday March 15th, 2009 11:04am
Thanks so much for sharing all this stuff
March Madness Q&A is fun :)
This was my fav title: Tess: Destroying Feminism One Spanking At A Time
Teh powerz. You HAZ IT!
Do you think it will be hard to go from being vanilla-ish to cunt-in-a-cage? would it have been easier to go from degrading masochistic to cunt-in-a-cage?
*snikkers* “Yer doing it wrong!” – How NOT To Do BDSM (according to the interwebz.) <<< you write it I’ll buy it :D I reckon it’ll be the best book I have read in ages!
do the whole thing in lolcat style and i’d buy it too…
Great Expectations: Learning to Let Go of Them
HAHAHAHAAHAHA…god you make me laugh!
Loving the Q & A by the way :)
ooops! Sorry….forgot my
“Tess: Destroying Feminism One Spanking At A Time” (Good one!)
“Yer doing it wrong!” – How NOT To Do BDSM (FUCKING hilarious!)
Yes, I’d be numero uno in line for a signed copy. :o)
i don’t want to blab on your space about my injuries, blah blah blah but the one thing you did ask- about my most serious injury i did to myself- grab the puke bucket…
I was sitting and working on trying to get a part stuck in my cellphone with the sharp tweezers (grab the bucket) and when i got up to do something, they went perpendicular on the floor right under my foot stepping down. They went over 1 1/2 inches into the bottom of my foot right at the arch. I actually heard the “crunch” of inpaled skin and caught it before stepping back down. Thought i had just stepped on my shoe or something and then it occured to me that the tweezers were stuck in my foot. Instant passing out pain or the realization. i had to pull them out (grosssssss) and drive myself to the ER for assistance and a tetenus shot. The worst.
Runner up is catching my big toe on the edge of the door at work whlie wearing fancy sandals and ripping off my toenail. GROSS! I am so rushed and forgetful sometimes. lol
Completely understand about Master beig possessive. I guess I would be too, if i were him. i know i’ve read about you meeting up with others & play parties so it was a subliminal whine… :o) i think they’d hit it off and get some ideas from one another. You’d like that, i know you would!
And seriously? Would love to meet you. Along with millions of others. You’re mean about the ass thing. I’m such a baby and half the time he has to shove it open really brutally to get it to go open. Mean. I am a wimp, but it turns me on to no end.
Intrigued about the thing you’re not allowed to speak of. Of course, I have a couple of those topics myself. Makes it so secretive and mysterious and no doubt, i’ll be checking for updates to the taboo topics!
Thanks for answering my questions. If you or Master would like to touch base with my Owner, you know where to write me for the contact info. You’re not that far away, you know.
xoxx
toy
Well I thought you were talking hurting myself in a bdsm playing sense.
But yeah, your story is pretty fucking ouchy.
I did something similar when I was a kid. I’d jumped off the top of our doghouse and landed flat-footed on a board with a big ol’ rusty nail sticking out of it. It punched right through my shoe and went straight into my heel. I still remember how much that hurt.
If I’m not that far away, why aren’t you here???? ;-)
Well, i thought i’d written out of scene scariest moment but it could have slipped my mind. Sorry. Gross. I’ve been thinking about my tweezer incident all day.
We are, theoretically, only a short drive apart. That’s why i whined that our Masters should talk.. atleast loosely. That’s all. Not a requirement and i will love you no matter what!
It’s 62 degrees out today. Makes me feel like a branch whipping out in the wilderness… unlike the 10 feet of snow you must have still apparently (ugh) We do not want any more snow here!
xoxx
the question about magdala reminded me about annissa. Was she really writing fiction? I have often wondered
That’s what I hear but I’ve no way of knowing for sure. She just up and disappeared and I don’t hear from her so your guess is as good as mine.
1. That person asking if your kids were involved hasn’t been reading you long. We knew the answer to that.
2. I would definitely buy most of those titles by you but not the Kinky Kooking by Kaya.
3. How fascinating that you and DL’s toy both have scary bdsm things in your future you aren’t supposed to divulge. I think you two have the scariest Masters on the internet. What could be worse than what you have already posted. I know you aren’t allowed to answer, I’m just saying it makes one wonder…
4. And I also think the nailing your tits to the board was the most terrifying thing.
That’s funny… thanks for the compliment, i think :-)
i’m sure we’ll be divulging sometime soon, kaya before me probably.
We heart her!!
(thanks *wink*)
toy
ooops, maybe that last needed more explanation. I’m sure you are a terrific cook, but that’s not what I come here for. And… I have tons of cookbooks and never use em, and, and, ok, now I feel like it was just a mean thing to say.
Could you work on either “Yer doing it wrong!” – How NOT To Do BDSM (according to the interwebz.) or Kaya in Wonderland: Finding Pleasure in Pain first?
sin
it surprises me that you just don’t journal all this shit!
would your dad allow that? he luvs publicity maybe? or enjoys acting macho? grins. funny-he knows your stuck in the middle of nowhere but i guess thats not the reason
.Kind of a shame you must think so little of yourself – I guess i never met anyone who needs degradation as a source of happiness. but you are a fun read-
if you ever faced- the molestation issues how do you think that might change you? cause emotional immaturity follows our kids also.y’know
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