Comments on: Money Money Money

By: viemoira

viemoira — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 20:18:07 +0000

I'm way late and catching up on posts but wanted to say that when I first began an M/s relationship I envisioned A as "the way" but have come to see B is much more likely and realistic. [rq=647676,0,blog][/rq]After Travel Shaving HNT

By: Biddable

Biddable — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 13:21:07 +0000

Re: The edit

The Captain’s preference is to not have to think about or deal with money at all. I’m responsible for the financial bitchwork of household budgeting, errand running, bill paying, etc. I’m also responsible for investing, savings, managing, blah blah blah. The Captain only wants to think about money in the context of “I need gas money. Gimme” or similar.

Despite all that, he knows I’m going to ask before I buy myself anything.

It’s a funny world.
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By: caethes of Alom

caethes of Alom — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 03:24:52 +0000

B…i have pretty good financial dicipline but without acess to any…i would have panic attacks (little bit of an abandonment complex)

By: french

french — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 01:03:37 +0000

Hmmm. Option B. To me it seems as if there's a more mental aspect for the person dropped off at the mall. The authority is coming from INSIDE THE HOUSE, you know? Okay, inside the head, but, yeah. [rq=598456,0,blog][/rq]See also- On the Notion of Consent and Personal Responsibility

By: Biddable

Biddable — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 18:02:17 +0000

I suppose Option B, although the Captain prefers Option C: give her control of all the budgeting and money so that you don’t have to deal with it… and know that she’ll ask you before she buys herself anything anyhow.
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By: Honey

Honey — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:04:07 +0000

I’m learning towards A because while telling somebody not to buy something and knowing they won’t does require authority…I think it takes even more to tell somebody they will no longer have access to money- ever. That is a much bigger commitment,a much larger risk than just knowing that you might be told “no shopping” so would hopefully be undertaken with some serious consideration…and so the skills of authority needed to make that seem safe and right and good….might be more.

By: HouseWench

HouseWench — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:04:02 +0000

B~~~~. That's like dangling someone's favorite candy in front of their face, but they aren't allowed to look at it. As opposed to not having candy in the house. [rq=593212,0,blog][/rq]We wear black so the blood doesnt show

By: storm

storm — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:36:28 +0000

love this question!!

i’m with nilla on this one…kind of a ‘win win’ no matter which way it goes.

personally i lean more to option B though. i tend to appreciate the more obvious control of B versus the subtle control of A.

storm

By: nilla

nilla — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 14:29:09 +0000

hmmm…that sounds more like “how do you want your spinach…creamed or plain?”

i’d call that a win-win for the Top. (and an exercise in frustration for the she!!)

btw. i was reminded today via sin (findingmysubmission) that i owe you a huge thank you, kaya.

Thanks to you, i’ve found a great many blog friends, a pair of Doms, a shared sub, and the courage to begin my own blog.

You paved a path for me, and i owe you big time. Not takin’ you shoppin’ tho…

nilla
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By: kaya

kaya — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 13:54:03 +0000

Ooh! Good example!