Comments on: “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Tue, 22 May 2012 19:02:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Love till it hurts | Insatiable Desire http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-13535 Love till it hurts | Insatiable Desire Mon, 25 May 2009 04:00:51 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-13535 [...] morning I decided to see if kaya had anything besides recipes up and I found this post and started crying. It was as if she opened up my heart and pulled out the thoughts I’ve had [...] [...] morning I decided to see if kaya had anything besides recipes up and I found this post and started crying. It was as if she opened up my heart and pulled out the thoughts I’ve had [...]

]]> By: Hanah http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10251 Hanah Sun, 28 Dec 2008 04:27:13 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10251 I didn't know Caitlin passed gosh I need to stay away a lot less. I am feeling the same distance and have for months. I don't know what we are doing anymore. I feel you're pain, hugs. And I am still alive... talk to you soon Hana I didn’t know Caitlin passed gosh I need to stay away a lot less. I am feeling the same distance and have for months. I don’t know what we are doing anymore. I feel you’re pain, hugs. And I am still alive…

talk to you soon
Hana

]]> By: penguinskitty http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10250 penguinskitty Sat, 27 Dec 2008 19:39:04 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10250 Remember how you started this journal? It was a writing exercise. A tool of communication between you and Scott. I hope that Scott reads the words that you seem unable to say. And I hope that you find the bridge to bring yourselves closer together. My sympathies go out to Caitlin's friends, family, and Master. I never got the chance to read her but it sounds like she was quite the influence. Remember how you started this journal? It was a writing exercise. A tool of communication between you and Scott.

I hope that Scott reads the words that you seem unable to say.

And I hope that you find the bridge to bring yourselves closer together.

My sympathies go out to Caitlin’s friends, family, and Master. I never got the chance to read her but it sounds like she was quite the influence.

]]> By: exile http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10226 exile Thu, 25 Dec 2008 23:07:41 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10226 you've been a slave for so long, it's hard to push your self when you've been relying on someone else to do so. you need to push your self to say those words. the best way i can see for you would be to write it all out in a letter. tell him how you truely feel in your heart. then leave it for him. telling him you love him again will be just like the first time you told him. it will scare the hell out of you to say it, but once you do, you'll be able to say it again and again. you’ve been a slave for so long, it’s hard to push your self when you’ve been relying on someone else to do so.

you need to push your self to say those words.

the best way i can see for you would be to write it all out in a letter. tell him how you truely feel in your heart. then leave it for him.

telling him you love him again will be just like the first time you told him. it will scare the hell out of you to say it, but once you do, you’ll be able to say it again and again.

]]> By: lalana http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10150 lalana Wed, 24 Dec 2008 10:25:55 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10150 Just a thank you Kaya... for being so damn honest about something that so many (especially me) seem to shy away from. I haven't been able to get your post out of my head since you wrote it, and had to sit down and do some writing of my own on it. So, I don't know how yet, but like you, I'm going to fix it. I have no choice, really, do I? Because he (and I) both deserve better... we've both worked too hard to get where we are to give up. Thank you again :) Just a thank you Kaya… for being so damn honest about something that so many (especially me) seem to shy away from. I haven’t been able to get your post out of my head since you wrote it, and had to sit down and do some writing of my own on it. So, I don’t know how yet, but like you, I’m going to fix it. I have no choice, really, do I? Because he (and I) both deserve better… we’ve both worked too hard to get where we are to give up.
Thank you again :)

]]> By: lalana’s Journey » Blog Archive » I wonder… http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10149 lalana’s Journey » Blog Archive » I wonder… Wed, 24 Dec 2008 10:17:39 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10149 [...] of the blogs I’m reading are the same thing right now.  Not only that, but going back to Kaya’s post, so many of the bloggers I read responded there - saying they understand, they’ve been there, [...] [...] of the blogs I’m reading are the same thing right now.  Not only that, but going back to Kaya’s post, so many of the bloggers I read responded there – saying they understand, they’ve been there, [...]

]]> By: Sinn http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10128 Sinn Wed, 24 Dec 2008 01:01:56 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10128 Been there. I guess we all have. So here's what you have to do. Just do it. Do something really vulnerable. Open up your gut wide open. Don't wait until you can see that he won't hurt you or be dismissive. Just do it. Maybe he will hurt you when you do it. Maybe he won't. Maybe he'll hurt you, & it'll open the flood gates to having one of those screaming, crying, terrible discussions that eventually winds around to resolution. The thing is, you'll never get anywhere if you're standing still. Been there. I guess we all have. So here’s what you have to do. Just do it. Do something really vulnerable. Open up your gut wide open. Don’t wait until you can see that he won’t hurt you or be dismissive. Just do it.

Maybe he will hurt you when you do it. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll hurt you, & it’ll open the flood gates to having one of those screaming, crying, terrible discussions that eventually winds around to resolution.

The thing is, you’ll never get anywhere if you’re standing still.

]]> By: His bliss http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10123 His bliss Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:24:51 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10123 I can relate to this too. I think there are so many of us feeling this way and we don't put it out there on our blogs. I don't know why. Me? I have a habit of taking things for granted sometimes and letting myself slip and then I am doing the same thing, standing on that gulf across the other side waving madly and wanting HIM to fix it, cos He is the Master after all. Then its tantrum throwing 101 and when I get my ass kicked, I wonder why. After it all I figure I should have just spoken up. So why don't I? That's the million dollar question. I read the post on Caitlins blog and I have to say I shed a tear because of it. Then I re read your post and my heart broke for you, for me and for everyone going through the same thing. Maybe I get complacent and think that I have it and I don't have to work at it anymore. But I know I do. And I've decided no matter how silly it sounds or how stupid I look I'm gonna put it out there so He knows. Thanks for a thought provoking post and I am sending you lots of love and good thoughts. bliss xoxo I can relate to this too. I think there are so many of us feeling this way and we don’t put it out there on our blogs. I don’t know why. Me? I have a habit of taking things for granted sometimes and letting myself slip and then I am doing the same thing, standing on that gulf across the other side waving madly and wanting HIM to fix it, cos He is the Master after all.

Then its tantrum throwing 101 and when I get my ass kicked, I wonder why. After it all I figure I should have just spoken up. So why don’t I? That’s the million dollar question.

I read the post on Caitlins blog and I have to say I shed a tear because of it. Then I re read your post and my heart broke for you, for me and for everyone going through the same thing.

Maybe I get complacent and think that I have it and I don’t have to work at it anymore. But I know I do. And I’ve decided no matter how silly it sounds or how stupid I look I’m gonna put it out there so He knows.

Thanks for a thought provoking post and I am sending you lots of love and good thoughts.

bliss
xoxo

]]> By: poetgirl http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10121 poetgirl Tue, 23 Dec 2008 20:49:05 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10121 I whole heartedly agree! I was in this same boat with someone I dearly loved and still miss to this day. Because I couldn't bring myself to stop drawing the line and keeping score, I eventually moved on and we ended up hurting one another. Years later we still talk but we both know what we did wrong. I remember that every day with the blessings of the man I married. I did end up with someone better, but we remember to communicate and show our vulnerability to one another on a daily basis and it makes the marriage just right. There are no awkward feelings and I am secure knowing that I will never be rejected. Point is, once you release your fears you will never be afraid again. I did and I am the happiest gal I could be. Best wishes. I whole heartedly agree! I was in this same boat with someone I dearly loved and still miss to this day. Because I couldn’t bring myself to stop drawing the line and keeping score, I eventually moved on and we ended up hurting one another. Years later we still talk but we both know what we did wrong. I remember that every day with the blessings of the man I married. I did end up with someone better, but we remember to communicate and show our vulnerability to one another on a daily basis and it makes the marriage just right. There are no awkward feelings and I am secure knowing that I will never be rejected. Point is, once you release your fears you will never be afraid again. I did and I am the happiest gal I could be. Best wishes.

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/live-as-if-you-were-to-die-tomorrow-learn-as-if-you-were-to-live-forever#comment-10116 kaya Tue, 23 Dec 2008 11:52:11 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=2299#comment-10116 Thank you all for sharing, for commiserating, for understanding, for trying to help. Even for pointing out what I already know. I've already begun taking those baby steps. We're both desperate for it and we'll get over this hump. We have to. Anything less just isn't acceptable. Not to me and not to Him. It won't happen overnight, we may backslide now and again. But we're worth the fight. Of that, I'm certain. Thank you all for sharing, for commiserating, for understanding, for trying to help. Even for pointing out what I already know.

I’ve already begun taking those baby steps. We’re both desperate for it and we’ll get over this hump. We have to. Anything less just isn’t acceptable. Not to me and not to Him. It won’t happen overnight, we may backslide now and again. But we’re worth the fight. Of that, I’m certain.

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