Comments on: Like it or not- http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Tue, 22 May 2012 19:02:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing? | Submissive Guide http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-40808 Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing? | Submissive Guide Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:02:33 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-40808 [...] something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...] [...] something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]

]]> By: Amber http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39743 Amber Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:34:53 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39743 "She is not a sub.. but he might be!" Bwa-ha-ha! Well, it wouldn't be the first time I've watched that scenario. Dan and I actually have a little skit we do for amusement. I mock-yell "Dom me, damn it! No, NOT LIKE THAT! LIKE THIS! OMG! YER DOIN' IT WRONG!" And Dan mock whines, "But you promised you'd be sub! You promisssssed! Be sub! BE MORE SUB!" And we die laughing. 'Cause I've watched couples do that very thing. And it's funny, I'm sorry. And they don't know what's wrong and I'm sure as hell not going to tell them. Bite my face off, they would. "Whaddya mean, we've got it backwards? SHUT UP YOU!" AHAHAHA! “She is not a sub.. but he might be!”

Bwa-ha-ha! Well, it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve watched that scenario. Dan and I actually have a little skit we do for amusement. I mock-yell “Dom me, damn it! No, NOT LIKE THAT! LIKE THIS! OMG! YER DOIN’ IT WRONG!” And Dan mock whines, “But you promised you’d be sub! You promisssssed! Be sub! BE MORE SUB!”

And we die laughing.

‘Cause I’ve watched couples do that very thing. And it’s funny, I’m sorry. And they don’t know what’s wrong and I’m sure as hell not going to tell them.

Bite my face off, they would. “Whaddya mean, we’ve got it backwards? SHUT UP YOU!” AHAHAHA!

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39659 Anonymous Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:35:53 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39659 methinks you missed the rhetoricalness of the questions ;) You are right it is a lot easier than it sounds, and I dont just mean the standing on tippy toes, but the problem is that too many folk do over think and analyse stuff to death. As I said "what ever way you cut it there is always a possibility that it ceased to be submission." IE at some point in time someone will snark and point fingers and say ooo that wasn't submission. So generally just getting on with your own brand is best, rather than getting the elitist soap box out. And since by now I have read your "this is what really triggered my post" post. its worth bearing in mind that some folk use microwave dinners every day and still call it cooking ;) methinks you missed the rhetoricalness of the questions ;) You are right it is a lot easier than it sounds, and I dont just mean the standing on tippy toes, but the problem is that too many folk do over think and analyse stuff to death. As I said “what ever way you cut it there is always a possibility that it ceased to be submission.” IE at some point in time someone will snark and point fingers and say ooo that wasn’t submission. So generally just getting on with your own brand is best, rather than getting the elitist soap box out. And since by now I have read your “this is what really triggered my post” post. its worth bearing in mind that some folk use microwave dinners every day and still call it cooking ;)

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39647 kaya Mon, 21 Sep 2009 12:50:27 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39647 "if you mean a snotty, “I don’t feel like it, asshole, get your own fucking drink” Yeah. And, not only does he gets his own drink, that sort of response from her is ACCEPTABLE. Her submission is dependant on her mood. Entirely. "I would never point and say, “HA! POSEUR! You’re not a REAL sub!” I would. Because it's true. I'm not questioning whether or not it's fulfilling for them or makes them happy. I'm challenging the idea of her being a submissive when her submission starts and ends with her being in charge. She is not a sub.. but he might be! “if you mean a snotty, “I don’t feel like it, asshole, get your own fucking drink”

Yeah. And, not only does he gets his own drink, that sort of response from her is ACCEPTABLE. Her submission is dependant on her mood. Entirely.

“I would never point and say, “HA! POSEUR! You’re not a REAL sub!”

I would. Because it’s true.

I’m not questioning whether or not it’s fulfilling for them or makes them happy. I’m challenging the idea of her being a submissive when her submission starts and ends with her being in charge.

She is not a sub.. but he might be!

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39646 kaya Mon, 21 Sep 2009 12:47:21 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39646 Nope, not what I was getting at. I'm talking about the subs blanket refusal to do anything she doesn't like to do. Period. Regardless of the doms interest in it. Nope, not what I was getting at. I’m talking about the subs blanket refusal to do anything she doesn’t like to do. Period. Regardless of the doms interest in it.

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39645 kaya Mon, 21 Sep 2009 12:46:26 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39645 That's another subject entirely I think. ps. where's yer freakin blog woman!? That’s another subject entirely I think.

ps. where’s yer freakin blog woman!?

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39644 kaya Mon, 21 Sep 2009 12:45:37 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39644 Ah, but you are already submitting to things you don't like. You dont like not being able to do his laundry. But are you doing it? ;) Ah, but you are already submitting to things you don’t like. You dont like not being able to do his laundry. But are you doing it? ;)

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39643 kaya Mon, 21 Sep 2009 12:44:28 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39643 "Sooo, this guy says to me, stand arms out stretched feet wide apart on tip toes, so I can play with your body. I attempt to" You attempt to. You didnt say "No, fucker. I don't stand that way evar!" This really isn't as difficult as you're trying to make it sound. "it suggests you are too busy thinking about how other folk do it" It also suggests that I found it to be interesting enough to make a couple of blog posts about it. That is not equal to the focus of my life. :) “Sooo, this guy says to me, stand arms out stretched feet wide apart on tip toes, so I can play with your body. I attempt to”

You attempt to. You didnt say “No, fucker. I don’t stand that way evar!”

This really isn’t as difficult as you’re trying to make it sound.

“it suggests you are too busy thinking about how other folk do it”

It also suggests that I found it to be interesting enough to make a couple of blog posts about it. That is not equal to the focus of my life. :)

]]> By: Chloe http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39560 Chloe Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:55:00 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39560 <i>Sooo, this guy says to me, stand arms out stretched feet wide apart on tip toes, so I can play with your body. I attempt to, but keep falling over, tippy toes is hard man!…that’s submitting and failing or submitting and suceeding cos least I tried ? Soo because I keep falling side ways annoyingly for him he ties my wrists to a beam so even if I fall I wont move far enough to spoil his fun…Is that submitting or was I just forced not to fall now?</i> Sounds like a job for Fetlife! They have the answers for EVERYTHING over there. I kid, I kid... In fact, mostly I just exist to amuse myself and others. ~Chloe [rq=677189,0,blog][/rq]<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheObeys/~3/n8HgfNiShO4/" rel="nofollow">Randomness Numero Cuatro</a> Sooo, this guy says to me, stand arms out stretched feet wide apart on tip toes, so I can play with your body. I attempt to, but keep falling over, tippy toes is hard man!…that’s submitting and failing or submitting and suceeding cos least I tried ? Soo because I keep falling side ways annoyingly for him he ties my wrists to a beam so even if I fall I wont move far enough to spoil his fun…Is that submitting or was I just forced not to fall now?

Sounds like a job for Fetlife! They have the answers for EVERYTHING over there.

I kid, I kid… In fact, mostly I just exist to amuse myself and others.

~Chloe
[rq=677189,0,blog][/rq]Randomness Numero Cuatro

]]> By: Chloe http://underhishand.com/like-it-or-not#comment-39559 Chloe Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:52:38 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4262#comment-39559 I secretly think Scott told us this because he was sick of meeting people in real life or talking to people off-blog and having them shriek, "Oh Em Gee, BUT... You're so NICE!!!!" That'd do my eardrums in. On-topic... I LOVE being told I'm doing a good job. I got told by Antonio that he was proud of me the other night! <b>*wiggles with glee*</b> ~Chloe [rq=677163,0,blog][/rq]<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheObeys/~3/n8HgfNiShO4/" rel="nofollow">Randomness Numero Cuatro</a> I secretly think Scott told us this because he was sick of meeting people in real life or talking to people off-blog and having them shriek, “Oh Em Gee, BUT… You’re so NICE!!!!”

That’d do my eardrums in.

On-topic… I LOVE being told I’m doing a good job. I got told by Antonio that he was proud of me the other night! *wiggles with glee*

~Chloe
[rq=677163,0,blog][/rq]Randomness Numero Cuatro

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