It’s definitely scary to think about what the kids may find out. I have two boys and a girl, and my daughter is quite nosey she will be the one to find things I’m sure of it.

We do try to hide everything from them, but I know they pick up on things. As of right now they don’t take thier father seriously when they overhear him telling me I’m in for it, or “You’re getting a spanking tonight!” etc. How many times do they have to hear it before they wonder though?

I try to teach the boys especially to respect women. I don’t want them to grow up thinking that thier father doesn’t respect thier mother. He does respect me, whether I’m yelling in his face, tied to the bed, laying across his knees, or standing in the corner! LOL The respect will always be there for us, me for him and him for me, hopefully that will be what the kids remember most and take with them.

I’m glad things worked out with your daughter, thanks for sharing it with us.

Janeen

I have no idea how to post my url because I never read it! However, I am Storm Rider and my comment to you is you are a wonderful Mom, and a wonderful slave. You handed your stuation very well! Congrats on you and your daughters relationship!

It’s also shown Master and i that we will have to be very careful about locking things up when we have children because if they are half as nosey as i was, then we could be in trouble!

slave m

kaya – You can leave comments – short or long – over at my site as much as you want.

Thank you for sharing your experience on the subject. That gives me a little more to think about as my kids get older.

The “rocket” comment gave both Master and I a chuckle. When my oldest was only 3 or so, he came into the bathroom a little bit after I had just finished playing with my waterproof blue sparkly vibrator. I had it sitting on the edge of the tub. He noticed it, and asked about it. I told him that was “Mommy’s Blue Toy” and he couldn’t play with it. Then the next time he came in while I was bathing, he asked where my blue toy was. I told him I had put it away. I got scared he was going to ask me about that damn thing every time I took a bath! Lucky for me, he forgot all about it. Out of sight, out of mind.

- kaylem

It does get hard. I have always told my kids the truth about anything and everything. I openly smoke reefer in front of them, talk about sex, make bad, tasteless jokes – pretty much behave around them the same way I do friends. The payoff has been what you have – openness and honesty, and a calm knowledge that my kids will come to me with any question or concern. My son even asked me one night, if I would allow him and his buddy to get drunk – and when I said oh fuck no (I may be the cool mom, but even I can only be so cool – he was 13 at the time), he accepted it and my reasons, without attitude or sneaking around behind my back.

I’ve even gone so far as to say the s word to my daughter. We started out talking about s&m, then moved on to D/s. I told her about you, first … and then recently just bit the bullet and told her flat out that I am a slave. (She hasn’t made the connection yet, I don’t think, that I am now Daddy’s slave … but it will soon enough, I’m sure. Her bedroom is right across the hall from ours)

I do have to admit one of the downsides to all this honesty is the other idea I have raised my children on – what happens in our house stays in our house. That one was so hard, and I tried my absolute best to make sure they knew that did not cover things that hurt them, that it only was to include their parent’s hobbies.

It’s hard, to be different in George Bush’s America … but all we can do is be as honest as we can.

THANKFULLY of the grandparents she’s likely to have communication with, I trust 2 sets to be very reassuring and say something along the lines of “Sweetheart, I understand why that’s kind of disturbing, but your Mommy and Daddy are very much in love and that’s just how they express it, I’m sure that they’ll talk to you about it if you go to them.” (I’m fairly certain my parents have played with some bdsm in the past, and Masters Mom is pretty easy going.. I’m not sure how his Dad would react.. I think his brain would explode.. He’s one of those very closed minded liberals.)

I think that the D/s will be the hardest, but I think that as I am a fairly hardcore 3rd Wave Feminist, she will grow up in a very inclusively minded household where things are more about “women choosing to be who they want to be” rather than just “women have to be super-execs and take over male dominated areas.” That will help the conversation (“Honey, Mommy has chosen to take care of your Daddy this way, you don’t have to make the same choice when you’re a grown up.. You can be whatever you want.. As can any other woman out there. Mommy works, and is very respected in her office (hey, i can day dream ), but when I come home, I have chosen to let your father be head of the household.. It’s not the only way, it’s just our way.” But I’m still pretty naive about raising older kids, so we’ll say what I’m saying in a few years.