My sister-n-law just had her first baby and because of one bad snip for the episiotomy, she ended up bleeding waaaay too much. As in, turned pale and nearly passed out (she actually doesn’t remember too much of this so I think she did). My brother tried to stay calm while my mother focused on the baby to not freak my brother out.

I just can’t believe that these supposed to professionals can hurt more than help AND have no remorse. I can’t say your daughter’s experience hasn’t scared the crap out of me for the future, but at least I’ll make sure someone will be there to be on the lookout.

I had a baby at 18, had HORRIBLE third/fourth degree tearing and felt every single stitch (although it was no fault of my doctors)

I did manage an epi though, thank god, but I was traumatized enough that I will never have a second child, at least not vaginally.

I was also in the hospital for a week and had to be readmitted (the hospital kicked me out everytime insurance ran out) every other day.

That lasted for two months.

I also could not lift my child, or walk because of my hips.

It sounds like your baby went though the same things I did!

She whole heartedly has my sympathies, as do you.

I hope she is up and feeling better now!

I was incapicitaed for nearly two months, it sounds like she is doing far better than I.

In that respect, that doctor is an ASSHOLE.

As both a nurse and pre-med student, I would have told him to stop, or called someone to make it stop, not just stand by.

That doctor took an oath that he violated 100%. I certainly hope you get somewhere with your complaint, that is simply NOT appropriate!

While I feel nothing may happen either, I do agree with Jess that the doctor gets fired or suspended. Or get a lesson on bedside manner.
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I had an amazing home birth at the age of 18 with an awesome team of loving midwives. That birth experience was incredible. I gave birth at the age of 22 (I appeared to be maybe 16) to my 2nd child in a hospital and I was treated horribly by the head nurse. My experience was NOTHING like your daughter’s, but it was enough to give me the strength to get the experience I wanted when I had my 3rd child in a hospital.

This experience can be a really empowering experience for her. Time will heal her physical wound and I pray that with time her emotional scars will be healed to. She can really use this childbirth experience to fuel her passion for young mothers being treated respectfully by hospital staff. I hope this is something she can look back on and use for good.

I am very proud of Jess for wanting to breastfeed and yet making the decision she did without guilt. The baby will be fine on formula…the most important thing is a happy and healthy mom for the baby!

I don’t think that you guys have done “too much” to help her out! You guys have done a perfect job!!! No new mom with the tearing she experienced should be up and going. She should be resting as much as possible for at least 2 weeks…maybe longer. Not only does she have the tearing “injury” to heal from, but she also has a raw wound in her uterus where the placenta separated. You guys are doing an awesome job making sure she takes care of herself. All new moms (regardless of age) need help. Between my mother-in-law, my mom, and my sister…I had help for 3 weeks after one of my baby’s was born (when I was 27 years old).

I’m so proud of Jess! Congratulations to all of you on the birth of this amazing little girl :)

- Don

This is unacceptable.

I’ve been out of town and missed the opportunity to ask for pics. Is it too late?

…In every house where I come I will enter only for the good of my patients,…”

I believe, based on what I’ve read, that the doctor that did this to your daughter has violated the precepts of his profession. You have options that may help see that he doesn’t do this to a daughter of someone else. Exercise those options.

This was blatant malpractice and surgical rape. Be the voice that will stop this doctor from doing it to someone else.

AS IF you don’t already have your hands full.

OH! Pics please!
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