Comments on: Dead is Forever.

By: Rose

Rose — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 19:55:32 +0000

Your point of view is despicable.

By: killer queen

killer queen — Tue, 26 May 2009 06:12:46 +0000

and sadly, none of them have the good grace to film it so internet perverts can jerk off to it.

shit on those selfish bitches.

have to say, though – i’m glad they’re dead.

LONG LIVE DARWINISM AND THE WINNOWING OF INFERIOR BEINGS.

By: the_maid

the_maid — Sun, 17 May 2009 08:06:58 +0000

teen suicide isnt particularly new but so , so sad. Im sorry your girls have to experience losing friends.
I remember two friends committing suicide when I was a teenager. The adults all shook their heads and said things like ‘why did he etc.’ I sat with those adults and didnt tell them that i had tried and just wasn’t even good at that.
Strangely, I feel that people that commit suicide are something between drama queens and losers. Why it’s so strange is that i have tried on a several occasions,I even felt like a loser for NOT succeeding!
When Im not in the grip of depression, I barely am able to remember the pain and hopelessness that led me to try to hurt myself. Real depression is a soul sucking darkness that leaves you feeling so close to dead that you feel you might as well be.Anything to make the pain stop.
I remember reading something when i was at an all time low. A little along the lines of ‘so you want to kill yourself tonight? how about you make one last effort for medication/counselling/reaching out to a friend? after all if it doesnt work out you can always kill yourself later’ that sounds pretty harsh to someone who hasnt been considering suicide perhaps but it worked for me. after being given every stupid SSRI in the book, thinking there was nokind of help left, I have found something to help.
Turns out my son also had depression. When he was 19 he tried to kill himself by driving off a bridge at 60 mph(yes over a breakup). What seemed like a bit of divine intervention he wasnt badly hurt. I believe that was his 11th of his nine lives used up. He made some less serious efforts too and I have to say HOW FRUSTRATING it is to get mental health help for kids. He always came to me when he felt that everything was hopeless and I must have said a thousand times, ‘we can fix this’
Last summer my son seemed to be doing better and was just out hiking with some friends when he had a serious fall and died. His girlfriend was pregnant at the time. Later on we found out she was expecting TWINS and BOYS! The boys came early and we nearly lost one to the same thing his dad died of. They are healthy 3 month old babies now and Im finally glad my attempts to commit suicide sucked! to make a very long story short…
1. No matter how dark and hopeless it feels, there is always a chance something can help. If you’re dead there is no chance.
2. There is no doubt that the statement ‘Aint life weird!?’ really applies to all of us. Maybe the universe does know what it means in your emails
3. BEING A GRANDMA ROCKS!!!

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:10:51 +0000

*Hugs* I’m so sorry to hear your daughter lost another friend :(

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:08:02 +0000

We had four girls commit suicide in less than a week here. These girls did it over being bullied in school. They’re now holding suicide prevention clinics for parents and students but not doing anything about the bullying. Makes perfect sense to me.
Don’t you know? Bullying is apart of growing up! *sarcasm* I feel for those girls. I was almost someone that committed suicide over being horrifically bullied. You would think that after SAMSHA declared it to be a form of abuse and all the research that’s been coming out of it lately that people would start taking it a little bit more seriously.

By: daddysgirl

daddysgirl — Wed, 06 May 2009 16:32:14 +0000

Hugs…

By: utica

utica — Wed, 06 May 2009 13:02:17 +0000

i would never condone the act of suicide,but knowing what it’s like to consistently reach to the conclusion of suicide being the only answer i can say that being a teenager is tough shit,and it’s that way for .. mostly everyone. it’s a not very well known fact but girls between the ages of 10-18 are the meanest human being’s on the planet,and having to deal with that day in and day out is an aweful experience for anyone. when your that age everything in life that goes wrong is catastrophic,and you never think its going to get better. it’s a vicious cycle of hormones really. in the eye’s of someone so young they are HUGE, very real issues. i wish that those girls could have found a better way to deal with the issue at hand but if they did then i guess people wouldn’t be discussing it,and then the issue wouldn’t be addressed.

By: SixThreeFive

SixThreeFive — Wed, 06 May 2009 11:12:35 +0000

Bah. It’s something with this month, I tell you. I swing between snapping and being angry, crying desperately, and staring into nothingness while wanting to cry.

Can’t it just be over? Like. Now.

By: penguinskitty

penguinskitty — Wed, 06 May 2009 05:11:36 +0000

::hugs::

By: di

di — Wed, 06 May 2009 03:35:24 +0000

As a mental health professional, I have to comment here. I attended a workshop about eight years ago that was dedicated to adolescent suicides. The two major points I came away from that workshop were:

a) In a major research project utilizing autopsies of teens who suicided, the overwhelming majority of the teens had an absence of serotonin, the primary neurotransmitter that is boosted by antidepressant medication in the SSRI class (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors). Basically, that class of antidepressant medication boosts availability of serotonin, and

b) Teens who attempt suicide but don’t successfully complete it unilaterally report that they attempt suicide because they see it as the ONLY choice that they have. So, regardless of the stressor (such as bullying, etc), the teen has concluded that this is the only choice he/she has and rather than have absolutely no control over life, he/she utilizes suicide as a final choice.

It is my experience in counseling seriously depressed persons that asking them “not to do that to me” has little to no efficacy. Instead, look at ways to boost serotonin levels and remind your kids that there are ALWAYS choices, regardless of how serious a situation may seem.

Of course, honestly telling the person that if they successfully suicide, the persons left behind (including everyone close to the person suiciding) will spend the rest of their lives asking themselves on a daily basis what they could have done differently. This will sometimes act as a deterrent, but not always.

When working with suicidal patients in psychiatric hospitals, I usually state, “suicide is the ultimate way to say fuck you to everyone who ever loved you, I didn’t realize this was your agenda. Wouldn’t it just be easier to say “fuck you” to these people now in person, so they really get the message?”

Sorry you all are hurting. Unlike the MASH theme, suicide ISN’T painless. It hurts a helluva lot to those left behind.