Choking.
Question: If You’ve recently punished Your slave for forgetting a task or rule and You then forget something Yourself… do You feel guilty for punishing her for something that You also fail at?
Answer: Nope. It’s my job to hold her to a higher standard. She’s the one under the microscope and any lil flaw or fault will be exploited to the full extreme. So if she does fail or forget, which is NOT allowed for her being a slave, then punishment will be doled out. I don’t think she will like this answer, but sucks to be her….She is there to make me proud. Failing is not an option.
As a matter of fact – I do not like that answer. Hmmph.
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Wednesday June 18th, 2008 10:13am
you are a cunt. Deal with it. I’d punish you for even thinking about disagreeing with this.
I am dealing. And I’m not disagreeing. I just don’t like it – and I don’t have to like it. I just have to DO it. :P
i would say that you should have reminded Him so He didn’t forget…
Ha. That’s funny!
*snort*
who the hell wrote that?
I’m a mouthy chick, and I have no problem pointing out if my owner forgets something. He’s got a stellar brain, too, but if he relied upon me so that he didn’t forget something, hey…that’s HIS brainmatter that’s failing…not mine.
but then again, I can be snarky at those moments without fear of retribution.
YMMV
I asked the question to others and Master answered it for Himself.
*shrug*
Huh. Well, I guess the question is one of unfairness and whether the top/dom can expect the slave to be better than he is. In some ways, yeah, the situation is unfair–just like he can punish the slave whenever the hell he wants, whether it’s warranted or not. That’s the way it is when he’s the one in charge, and she doesn’t get to choose when he’s fair and when he isn’t. Fairness is not the object in a M/s relationship…or so I gather.
But yeah, I tend to think that anyone who calls himself a Master had better hold himself to standards just as high or higher than those he holds his slave to. Otherwise he’s just an ass with a self-bestowed title.
Oooh.. guess that makes Master an ass with a title. ;)
LOL Uh, are you going to get in trouble for even typing that?? I’d offer to take the punishment, but I don’t think I could take what you regularly take. :)
Only if He dives into the comments to read it. :P
Are you sure you don’t like that answer? I would have thought it a little bit of a trigger. Isn’t that why you are a slave and not simply a subbie?
I do enjoy the thought of just looking for a reason to be cruel at all times.
Shhh. It’ll be our little secret. ;-)
I wont tell if you wont.
Unless I ever actually talk to Him, then all bets are off. I do sort of assume He already knows, but I have been wrong before.
While being Domly has its privileges, perfection is not one of them. I screw up all the time, make mistakes, and (shhhhhhh) don’t know everything.
However, I’m a sadist not a perfectionist. I set rules, provide guidelines, requires tasks. Failure to meet those expectations dictate punishment. Chances are my screw-ups are outside of those areas.
jewel does not set the rules or provide guidelines, and cannot require me to perform tasks for her. The power is not exchanged in that direction.
So having said that, I’m going back to trying to walk on water again, apparently it can’t hold my weight. It must be inferior water.
That’s pretty much exactly what my Master would say!!!
Some time ago, I figured out that being a slave meant that the relationship was unfair (that would be the “unequal exchange of power”!) and so now when something unfair happens, and I feel humphy about it, I just say to myself, “This is the part where being a slave sucks,” and that seems to fix things in my mind, just reminding myself that it won’t ever be fair, and sometimes it will suck, and I love it nonetheless (in face, because of the potential for teh suckage, but like you and ViciousKind, let’s keep that sub-rosa!)
*laughs* speaking of fairness.. anytime my children would complain that it wasn’t fair.. I’d shrug and remind them that this was not a democracy.. it was a dictatorship.. I was the dic.. they were the tators.. so get over it.. somehow it seems appropriate here too! *smirks*
So having said that, I’m going back to trying to walk on water again, apparently it can’t hold my weight. It must be inferior water.
For some strange reason.. I love that line.
Kaya,
I guess being a Master is a lot like being a teacher. I expect much from my students and my own mistakes don’t let them off the hook. ;)
Dave
*giggle* Spot on, Scott!
Hey, has my email gotten lost or are things just too busy over there? Just wondering. :)
I look at it this way he can catch your mistakes and fix them and he can do the same for himself he just doesnt get the external correction you do : )
I know the ‘this is not fair’ feeling, but for me it’s part of what gets me into sub-space. I will myself into giving up the mental struggle and accepting his authority over me.It can take a little time and brattishness, but god it feels good when I succeed!
sounds like a narrcisstic master to me – the worst kind.
Why is it the worst kind?
Dear Kaya
I think narcissistic people don’t have control over their actions so if a Master isn’t in control how can he manage someone who has reliquished themselves to them?
I’ve lived with a few and I’ve worked with a few and trust me, your master isn’t one but those that are out there are only in it for themselves they dont care about anything else – yours loves you so he definitely cares – a narcissist has an abundance of self love and ego and are incapable of true love i.e. loving others.
This is my opinion of course no expectation for others to agree.
Sunni, narcissism is simply another (uber) manifestation of ego. And I have found that one of the very BEST, most attractive, most USEFUL, (useful as regards the administration of Master’s authority), attributes of my Master, IS that ego. It’s yet another trait that separates him (everything) from me (nothing).
I think it’s safe to say that were it not for that ego, that narcissism, the power differential would be so much less tipped in his favor, and hence so much less fulfilling for each of us.
I prefer men who think they are God.
~magpie
magpie
Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. As punishment, he was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away and changed into the flower that bears his name, the narcissus.
Ego alone does not make a narcissist
someone who has excessive self-love, based on self-image or ego is Narcissistic and in my world I wouldn’t come within 10 feet of one with a whip in his hand.
My M has an ego, oh that he has but he has love of others (people, life, me, kids, animals) far above his own self love and ego.
He can whip the shit out of me and yet love me with no ego involved. He can Dom me with expected tasks and there is no ego involved.
I just do what he expects to please him and he provides me with what I need and takes what he wants when he wants it. No ego required no self love required – its just that simple for us.
Sunni,
I am aware of the story of Narcissus, lol, but it was nice of you to copy and paste the story for me.
I never said that ego alone makes a narcissist…if that were the case, every single human being could be identified as narcissistic!
My point being that there is nothing wrong with a healthy dose of ego and/or narcissism. Especially in the type of man I *need*/am attracted to. In fact, I think a lot of submissives/slaves can ALSO identify with qualities that are inherent to narcissists! (I’m probably going to get it for that but whatever…)
I don’t understand you. One minute you say, in reference to kaya’s Master: sounds like a narrcisstic master to me – the worst kind
The next minute, in reference to kaya’s question, you say: your master isn’t one but those that are out there
???
~magpie
Hi magpie….I took Kaya’s post as something she read not that it was an exchanged between her and her Master. When I read her post I thought it was from somewhere else – I don’t think her M is a narcissist in the true sense of the word, he isn’t selfish and he is capable of love. I think that comment Kaya wrote sounded like a narcisist – if it was her M and her exchanging notes well I just said what it sounded like to me.
if you’ve worked in mental health management you might understand what I mean when I say the narcissist is different then the normal healthy person with an ego & an added flavor of Dominate or Master – in my experience they are very different. A true Narcissist can be very dangerous and selfish – not capable of loving others – in my life my M is not selfish and loves me tons more then himself….but yeah, he has ego as big as Texas and yes, I am attracted to men with a healthy dose of ego but definitely not a narrsistic personality. I’m just saying that ego/narcissism are two different things to me – for you they have traits that are similar. However, in my opinion those two qualities are very different.
I understand what your saying – thanks for the exchange of thoughts.
Luv Sunni
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