Another one bites the dust…
I see that the last post came out *completely* wrong. I didn’t mean to bash the conclusions that anyone came to. I know it came across that way but that’s because I’m a twat. Y’all aren’t twats. That is reserved for me. :-)
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Uncategorized | kaya | 
Friday December 12th, 2008 7:45am
Kaya,
Honestly, some of our conclusions (such as mine) needed to be bashed, or at least brought up short. Anyway, I’m not a twat, I’m a dick! :)
Dave
Sorry. Twat it is. It’s my new favorite word..lol.
Say it. Twat. Twattery. Twathead. Twatheadery.
I lurves it. :D
Don’t forget Twat-o. (My childhood nickname from my oh-so-couth father.)
Nobody’s a twat. We’re all just stumbling around trying to make us all feel better in a world where everything can’t be wrapped up in a pretty bow. We’ve come to care about each other as we’ve connected through your wonderful blog. We’ve enjoyed you and your blog – you’ve given us much and we wanted to pay that back when we saw you in need. Now, let’s us all loosen up and remember to laugh again. Life seems long when times are tough, but it is so very short. Thank you, Kaya, Tess (who do you want to be now?), for all you’ve given us with this fun, insightful, irreverent blog!
I don’t know who I want to be! How about you just call me whatever you feel like calling me? I’ll answer to pretty much anything.lol
I’s a twat….sometimes :)
kaya, this is in responce to your last post, more or less. The problems with Jes are about what I thought they were, and please believe me when I say I support your Master 100% in this that I am not trying to hurt your feelings or to dismiss your thoughts. Jes has to grow up, fast. She seems to have always gotten her way by threatening you with leaving or withholding her love for you. Do not give in on this. She wants to ruin her life by living with the asshole, fine, go. But she has got to stop tearing up your family, her actions hurt you, Master and the other two kids as well. I have been there. My youngest son, now 29, did the same. I felt that I had to put up with his drug addiction and his actions as everyone else had “thrown” him away. It got so bad that my wife told me good bye, when he is gone, I and the twins will be back. With the choice of losing my daughters and wife, I finally laid down the law. My way or the highway, no drugs, clean up and get a job now. This lead to the only time in my life I had to use force on one of my kids. Big fight. I didn’t see him for two years and felt like I was the worst person inthe world. Today he is off drugs for the past three years and attending college. He finally got it.
You love Jes, that will never change, but the conditions of your relationship must change. She has to grow up, not just for you, but for her child also.
I have never commented so much before, and feel like I am totally inturding on your life. won’t do it again.
You didn’t hurt my feelings at all. I hope you always feel welcome to tell me what I NEED to hear rather than what I WANT to hear.
The only thing I’ll disagree with you about is that it’s not her tearing up my family. It’s me. I’m letting her and I have to stop.
But everything else you said is spot on. Thank you.
Go easy on yourself! This is the internet and it’s easy to misread cos we miss the vital visual clues of face-to-face communication. And it’s not easy to say “huh? I didn’t get that!” I wanted to do that with at least a couple of replies to your previous post.
{{{hugs}}}
Blessings
Dinora3228
I should know better than to write when I’m not clear on it myself. But I have to admit that writing it helps me straighten it out internally, even if it leaves the rest of y’all confuddled. Sorry!
Anyone who can use the word “twats” and make me smile is, by definition, not a twat herself.
So says the Law of Chloe.
;)
~Chloe
lol.
I like the law of Chloe. :)
Twunt should be a word added to your vocabulary.
Saaaay it! Twunt. Twunt. Twuntery. Twuntdom. :3
Dear Kaya,
I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, but never had the courage to comment (yeah – one of those ‘closet’ types!).
Your post did not come out wrong, I have a daughter, younger than yours, but I hope and pray that if I and she were in the same situation I would have the courage, foresight and intelligence to do as you do.
All best wishes.
I think my favorite usage of the word ‘twat’ is in the movie Sliding Doors, where the guy says ‘Helen, I’m a twat’ while he’s trying to apologize. :-)
Yay!! Someone else who’s seen that movie! I LOVE that movie…it’s seriously on my top 5.
Dosn’t Dane Cook do a bit on that word?
i was guessing it was something kid related to…and i am glad that you let us “hear” you working it out. thanks and hugs all around…
fown