I have rants. Let me show you them.
Rant #1-
My ex-father in law chose not to come and see us when we were visiting in Illinois. Because he is divorced from the ex-MIL, he avoids gatherings where she might show. Totally fine and totally his choice to make.
However.
Do NOT make my child cry over feeling guilty because we did not stop and see YOU. We crammed an 880 mile round trip and two parties (that I had to prepare for when I got there!) into three fucking days with myself and 3 teenagers so don’t EVEN lay the guilt trip on my kid because you chose to sit on your ass and not leave your house.
Seriously. Jes was in tears when she got off the phone with him. I was LIVID.
So I called him back. Look here, I said, please don’t make her feel bad over a decision that I made. It wasn’t up to her whether or not we stopped to see you. It was up to me and I decided not to. We had a lot going on, it was a long drive and while I would have liked for the kids to visit you, it didn’t work out that way. You are more than welcome to come here and visit us any time you want to. But if you want to be mad at someone, be mad at me.
So he falls all over himself reassuring me that he wasn’t trying to make her feel bad and he isn’t mad and he didn’t mean anything and he knows we were busy, yada yada yada.
Then.
He mails a card to Brandon. In it is a note to Jes. It says “We waited for you guys to stop by. We bought presents for the baby. Maybe next time you’ll stop.”
That’s it. Word for fucking word.
Seriously? Seriously? Fuck OFF.
I am incredibly finished with my ex’s family. Every single one of them. No lie. No more invitations, no more nothing.
I left that family by divorcing their loser of a son 15 fucking years ago. My children were INFANTS. Like, literally. Infants. Jes was 2, Am was 1 and I was pregnant with the boy. What? Were they supposed to call and arrange visitation schedules in baby talk? Wtf.
In my opinion, maintaining relationships like that falls to the adults. To THEM. To their son. It’s HIS job to plan birthday parties and holidays and make sure the kids got there to visit. NOT MINE.
It wasn’t enough that I DID invite them to every single birthday party that I had (when I didn’t even want them there considering that we aren’t family anymore!) That I made sure the kids got there, and got home, for Christmas and Thanksgiving, sharing MY time with the kids when I would much rather they spent holidays with myself and my family.
And all I ever heard about that is how “they only contact us on a holiday.” *whine*
Well, pick up the fucking phone! You are the adult here. The onus lies on YOU. Not on kids!
Gah! I’m so mad I could spit.
I’m just done. So done. They’re all fuckheads.
*scrubs my hands together viciously* There! I have washed my hands of you!
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Rant #2-
To FR:
An unwed teenage mother!
Oh noes!
Teh horror!
Really? So, like, she should go kill herself or something? Or is it that I should be hanging my head in shame because of my “awful parenting”?
Honest to Pete. What a twit.
It happened. It’s done. There is no going back in time and changing it. So while you sit over there and rant about that awful parenting of mine, I’ll be cuddling my granddaughter and helping my daughter become a mother.
I could think of worse ways to spend my time. Like, say, bitching about all those blogs that you claim you don’t read.
Taking the hard road doesn’t come without its benefits. She’ll be a stronger and better person for it. This may not be what I’d have chosen for her, but it’s what she chose for herself. My love and support doesn’t end just because of that.
What a pity that any mother would think it should.
Apparenty, none of my kids are going to be easy. They all have minds and distinct individual personalities. I’d much rather they be this way than tiny little drones following the sheeple herd, too afraid to rock the boat.
But, neither are Master and I “easy”. You can call it drama, you can call it whatever you want. We call it living. I wouldn’t trade one second of our life for all the non-drama in the world. There is nothing we have been through that hasn’t brought us closer together and cemented us as a couple.
I’m pretty suspicious of people who claim to never have a rocky road to travel, yanno? That whole “dog shit on the carpet” thing.
Smooth sailing doesn’t necessarily build character or strengthen a relationship. What’s going to happen the first time the wind blows if you haven’t learned any techniques to get through a storm?
And, God, what does it say about a person who spends half her day trying desperately to reassure anyone listening how wonderful her life is while slamming anyone who dares to bring up something stinky? I can’t even imagine the insecurity that exists in people like that. If they had any clue that they’re displaying the exact opposite of the image they are trying so hard to show.
I mean, it’s pitiful really. I should have sympathy and if she wasn’t such a bitch, I might!
I’m never going to be ashamed that Master and I have “moments” of not being perfect. I am never going to be ashamed of my kids or of the choices they make. I am never going to be ashamed of having pms, of having to work at submission, of not being the greatest cook or the world’s best gardener.
I’m just not. I am me and sometimes I stink. The End.
Love me or hate me, but for God’s sake, find something else to do with your time. Flattering as it is, your obsession with me is kinda creepy.
Shoo.
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Rant #3-
When I was in Illinois, I wore shorts. And I was sweating!
Here, we’re still running the furnace.
When I was in Illinois, my mother’s flowers were blooming, the garden was planted; they were picking strawberries!
Here, we’re still running the furnace.
When I was in Illinois, we turned the fans on cuz it was hot!
Here, we’re still running the furnace.
When I was in Illinois, my sister was swimming in her pool.
Here, we’re still running the fucking furnace!
In conclusion- I’d like to move to Illinois please.
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Rant #4-
I find it hard to believe that I have taste buds so vasty different than the 310 people who rated this recipe with 4 or 5 stars when, in actuality, it tasted like slow simmered dog food.
It smelled good! Tasted like crap.
AND wasted an entire package of boneless pork chops.
I’m going through a period of kitchen fail at the moment. It’s frustrating. I can’t remember what other dish I made that was horrific but it was pretty recently whatever it was. Times like this makes me want to revert to packaged meals that are impossible to mangle.
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Rant #5-
I? Am a fatass.
It’s true.
I fattened up over the winter like the Thansgiving turkey. No one to blame but myself. I stepped on a scale at a friend’s house a couple of weeks ago and… oh. my. God.
Fat. Ass.
So! Expect to see a fair amount of diet/exercise talk on this blog in the near future. I’m not aiming for skinny-mini (Master doesn’t like them bony girls!), I’ll be happy with tying my shoes and breathing at the same time.
Besides. I have to shed some pounds because I am going to make Master take me to Spank in August. *nods* Y’all should plan to go, too. We could have a party! (seriously though. How cool would it be to meet up with you all?! I could give you those cookies I keep promising!)
AND we have a guest coming right after that. 
Must. Lose. Weight.
20lbs by the end of August. That’s my goal.
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Rant #Ilostcount-
American Idol.
America, you disappoint me. You SO chose the wrong guy.
It’s way belated but needed to be said.
Kris=Fail.
Adam=Win.
I can’t even figure out how Kris stole the votes. Adam is a GOD. Kris is a… a… a cow fart counter.
Bah.
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Rant#Million-
The kids only have two days of school left.
Need I say more?
*sob*
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I might be done. For now.
I guess the “Die, Motherfucker, DIE!” portion of pms was just late to the party. 
~cunt
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June 3, 2009 8:10 am
You blog, your rants – rock on. Ex-in-laws do that crap. Say all the ugly, manipulative crap they won’t say to you to your kids. Like 8yr olds drive or something. If they wanted to they could have been actively involved in their lives. We do it all the time — unless the Mom says no, you make it happen. These self-centered wieners don’t get it, it ain’t about them. They should have been falling all over themselves trying to see that girl instead of sitting back waiting on her to come kiss the ring. Screw ‘em.
Now I don’t read all of your comments, you get a lot, but please I hope I am not hearing you say someone actually comes to your blog to criticize your child. LHM, (Lord have mercy), I would be trying to track their IP address to give them a face to face cussin’ out. I would just take the beating from your Man. They got it coming. But since you didn’t say that, I am going to calm down and go back to drinking my chocolate. Have a good one. P
You get to drink chocolate!?!?! You lucky thing!
Ohhh the ex-in-laws! Always full of misery and just GRRRR! I remember this one when they TRY to push our buttons: The stupid apple doesn’t fall far from the moron tree. You have my support 150% on that whole mess.
“The stupid apple doesn’t fall far from the moron tree”
LOL! So true!
“This may not be what I’d have chosen for her, but it’s what she chose for herself. My love and support doesn’t end just because of that.”
She’s lucky to have a mother like you.
Mine is so hateful of my poly relationship that I can’t hardly bring myself to talk to her anymore. I’m 33 weeks pregnant.
That’s a shame. Really. Someday maybe she’ll realize what she’s doing.
Boo hiss on the inlaws! You have done everything that most people wouldn’t now they can just feck off, no?
I love your rants. Seriously. I totally feel for you but you made my day.
Rants are good for the soul. *nods seriously*
I’ve had luck like that with AllRecipes, namely a chicken and dumpling soup that got four and a half stars. It was PUTRID. Even Master wouldn’t eat it, and he eats anything. Master now bristles a little bit if I say the recipe I am making at that point is from AllRecipes. Traumatized. He haz it.
As for In-Law families…Fuck ‘em. Make ‘em mail the presents. I bet they were not so great. Dollar store junk.
What I’m noticing about allrecipes is that people are rating *their own new-and-improved* recipe and NOT the one that’s posted.
How fucking dumb is that!? Like I have time to read 400 reviews to see who changed what and how and … grr.
Pisses me off! lol
“Taking the hard road doesn’t come without its benefits. She’ll be a stronger and better person for it. This may not be what I’d have chosen for her, but it’s what she chose for herself. My love and support doesn’t end just because of that.”
That was seriously the most heartwarming thing I’ve run into in ages.
Thank you. It was a little rough there for awhile but it all comes down to one thing. I love her. She’s my kid.
You always rant so well! On your ex-in-laws, you have done so much to give them time with your kids. That is more then many do too bad they can’t appreciate you going out of their way even when they haven’t.
That recipe is odd to me because boneless pork chops aren’t what came to mind when reading it – something with more fat like pork ribs. Then I think the fat from the ribs would have given the sauce a better flavor. One thing I do often when making recipes like this is mix that sauce up and taste it before pouring it on the meat. Because if it doesn’t smell good or taste good before – cooking it might change it a bit but not enough to make it great in my opinion.
“This may not be what I’d have chosen for her, but it’s what she chose for herself. My love and support doesn’t end just because of that.” That there is unconditional love and it is a wonderful thing you have done for your daughter.
This is where I fail at Cooking for Dummies…lol I still don’t know how flavors mix, or what shouldn’t go together, things like that. If only I could experiment like this *without* wasting food. Groceries are SO expensive these days.
Adam sooo should have won, but I expect Chris has more general appeal when you think of America. Adam was exceedingly more talented, but a bit more fringe. *sigh*
Maybe it was the ginger. I dislike the taste of ginger in recipes, and, a little goes a lonnng way.
20 pounds by August is definitely doable! I lost 17 from February to April, and I cheated like, regularly, lol. (and hardly exercised!)
I think when Danny got voted off, everyone who voted for Danny then voted for Kris.
But still. Kris blows.
Congrats on the upcoming grand baby. A very very long time ago I was living with a sperm donor who did not want to be a dad. My mom against her feelings, took us back in, and helped me become a mother. My oldest is now one of 3, and I am happily married and have a husband who loves my eldest more then life itself. Cuddle that grand baby like there is no tomorrow. It is amazing to give and get unconditional love. Good for you.
As to the ex and the family…you did all you could. If they really wanted to be involved they would be. Screw em….they are the ones missing out
I love to read you and your rants….
I am going to spoil this baby for as long as Jes lives here and lets me. I know it’s a temporary living arrangement so I’m going to make the very very best of it.
Regarding American Idol, look at the bright side. Adam doesn’t have to record that crappy Kara song and will have much more artistic freedom than Kris. Better for him to be in 2nd.
Omg. That song was *terrible*.
lol
Well, yanno, you can eliminate the AI rant. It’s ALL good. Chris Daughtry shoulda won a couple years ago. Who did? (No, seriously, who was it? *googles* Or right, that doofus, Taylor Hicks.) Chris is laughing all the way to the bank after turning a 4th place finish into becoming the 4th most successful AI contestant ever, with a rock album that became the fastest selling debut rock album in the history of ever. The winner of AI is not always the winner of a place in music history.
Plus, American Idol is DOIN’ IT WRONG. It should be like Survivor. People should be voted OFF, not voted to stay ON. Because earlier in the competition, it would reallocate the “crazy” and “smart” votes to more useful places.
I mean… If all the smart people have about 5 or 6 good people to vote FOR, the smart-votes are going to be spread thin over those few good ones. But if we were voting OFF, us smart-voters could concentrate on eliminating those truly terrible crazy-fan faves (Taylor hicks, for example) that will NEVER have successful careers (and all us smarties KNOW that) early on. And if the crazy voters can’t sit at home and vote ninety billion times for someone like Taylor Hicks, they’re going to have to pick one of the 5 or 6 good ones (read: real competition for their silly favorite) and then their crazy-votes will get spread out.
Huh. I guess that didn’t eliminate an American Idol rant. I just created a new one! HA! *rocks*
P.S. – I looked at the pork chops recipe. Rather, I looked at the picture with the recipe. It looks like someone went poo on rice, Tess. So it’s not really your fault it was yucky, it’s the fault of your subconscious. You were CLEARLY channeling your other post, about scat recipes, when you saw that recipe and decided to make it. BAD subconscious! BAD! TSK!
~Chloe
So.. you like Taylor Hicks then? You want I should buy you his newest CD? I’d love to do that for you!
“I looked at the picture with the recipe. It looks like someone went poo on rice, Tess. So it’s not really your fault it was yucky, it’s the fault of your subconscious. You were CLEARLY channeling your other post, about scat recipes, when you saw that recipe and decided to make it.”
BWAhahahahaha! You crack me UP!
*sighs* Your rant on the ex-inlaws remind me of my ex in that, he never fails to upset the kids whenever he (infrequently) shows up again in their lives. Adults though they are now.
Now I get to rant in your comments (aren’t YOU lucky? LOL!)
My ex called my son on his birthday late that night and Ray thought, well, at least Dad remembered this year, unlike last year when he never called but it turned out he’d only called Ray for tech support on his computer. Then “Dad” called back a few days later and left a message wishing Ray a belated birthday and said he’d been too busy to call on his actual birthday.
Dude! YOU ALREADY FUCKING CALLED, YOU NITWIT ASS! LIAR!
Ray was pissed and decided not to answer the phone anymore if his dad calls. It’s not just the birthday thing, it’s all the years of ignoring Ray, despite Ray trying to connect, and when he does finally call, it’s the constant yakking about his gf’s son, who is six, whom he insists on calling the kids’ brother. “Your little brother, Tommy” this and “your little brother Tommy” that.
He’s not their brother, he’s a nice little boy, well, we assume, since the kids have met him twice, but doesn’t their dad understand how this hurts his REAL kids? That he abandoned them all these years and now has glommed onto this little boy and calls him his “son” and he’s their “brother”?
He even calls him “Uncle Tommy” now that we have a granddaughter. Imagine how happy our daughter is with this 6 year old “uncle” to her daughter whom she doesn’t know, who isn’t related to her, not even by marriage and who is the offspring of her dad’s gf that everyone thinks is with her dad for his money.
That would be a big ol’ NOT HAPPY.
Anyway, he called Ray again the other day for some reason and Ray relented and answered the phone; again, he needed help with something and as he hung up, he said, “bye, Tommy, oops, I mean…Ray! ahaha”
It’s so not funny, Ex of mine. Ray’s pissed again. I don’t blame him. Why can’t their dad see how he’s pushing the kids away from him? Why can’t your ex-FIL see what he is doing to Jes? ARGH!
Next, who the fuck is FR? Please email me, I gotta know. And who the fuck does she fucking think she fucking is? Fuck her. Fuck.
(I sound like Ramsay! lol)
Fat-assed-ness:
Um, I haz it. I blame winter too. *nods* Winter and hubby being laid-off, the IRS, American Idol results, I blame EVERYTHING!
But me. heh. *grins*
As for AI, don’t be a hater, but…
I voted Kris. *cringe*
Yes, I’m a huge fan of Adam, I LUBS him and I voted for him many many times, but fact is, I realized when I closed my eyes, I preferred listening to Kris. And if we’re supposed to vote for whomever we think is the best, I had to go with who I really might buy on iTunes.
Adam is fun and talented and flashy and a blast but I would never want to put on a CD of his.
WATCH him flaunt that butch-gay-strangely-appealing-broad-shouldered-Elvis vibe all over the stage?
Hell yeah.
But not so much listen to.
And I agree with anonymous; Adam’s better off not locked into that 7 year contract doing what others want him to do. This way he tours for a year with the AI group, then he’s done. GO ADAM! YAY KRIS!
(Now, don’t be hatin’ on the Amber for picking Kris, I’m just keepin’ it real, folks)
They see me rollin.
They hatin.
tryin to catch me ridin dirty
DON’T BE A HATER!
Amber…OUT!
“I voted Kris.”
You are now and forever OFF my christmas card list. That’s it. You… you SUCK!
I would not buy a CD of his. He’d put me to sleep. *yawn*
Actually, I really hope Adam and the red-headed chick do something together. They were teh awesomeness when they performed on AI, don’t you think?
As for exes and not knowing how to be dads. Here’s my own personal story.
My bio dad hasn’t spoken to me for.. shoot.. close to 20 years I bet. I don’t know where he lives or what he’s doing or if he’s close to death. I don’t know anything about him. Neither does he know anything about me. He’s never seen my kids, probably doesn’t know I have any actually.
He could know these things. I could know things about him. Because he’s not out of contact with my family. He’s in regular contact with my oldest sister. Either one of us could try and build a relationship.
The way I figure it, my mother and he divorced when I was around 4 or 5 years old. My sister on the other hand, was then either 14 or 15 years old. Surely having raised her for 15 years, they created a bond that simply didn’t exist between him and I. So, after the divorce and as visitations rolled around, he just kind of let me fall by the wayside while he maintained that father-daughter bond with my sister.
The good news is that I had a really great step-dad who is the one I refer to as my Dad. The other good news is that there isn’t a lot of hurt in me from my bio dad’s preferential treatment. Oh there used to be bunches, years ago, but… I dunno. He’s such a stranger to me now. I’m not much more affected by his behavior than I would be by a stranger on the street.
Neither is he, I’m sure. And really, that’s the only part that still stings. Knowing that HE isn’t affected. I know why I’m not. I never had the chance to relate to him. But as a father, why wasn’t that automatic bond there, you know? Why doesn’t he ask my sister about me? How does he rationalize pretending that I never existed?
So.. anyway.. old hurts. Blah.
It’s too bad someone can’t sit down with your ex and spell it all out exactly as it is.
Change that 20 years to closer to 30. I forgot how old I am. Boo.
I wanted to go to Spankfest. Can’t.
An inlaw is a presenter there ~.~
No way! Which one? I’ll stop and say hello..lol
I’d tell you, but Master’s dad has threatened to beat me if I do. And I’ve HEARD how his beatings go.
Nothanks.
In-law related beatings would be waaaay more humiliating than I am ready to experience in this century.
An in-law related beating sounds incredibly hot…and, of course, humiliating for you.
Rant #1 – Good riddance, the apple falling not far from the tree seems appropriate.
Rant #2 – I loved J more than life itself and that love was returned in spades. We had more than a few rough spots over the years. Steel gets tempered. I call “liar liar pants on fire” to anyone that claims nothing but smooth sailing.
Rant #3 – I’ll see your Illinois and raise you the SC coast.
Mount Pleasant, SC
Currently Partly Cloudy
88.7 °F
Partly Cloudy
Humidity: 54%
Wind: Calm
Visibility: 10.0 miles
Dew Point: 70 °F
Precipitation: 6% Chance of Rain
Rant #4 – First thing I noticed was every single person altered the recipe.
Rant #5 – Spank sounds like fun. Need to consider that. Good luck on de-fatting. I decided to wear loose clothes but I’m not the one that’s going to be naked and tied up either. Detour: When we were coming home after J’s diagnosis was confirmed, uncharacteristically I was quiet while trying to find some words to comfort her. She spoke up. “Well, that’s the end of dieting. I’m not fighting both fat and disease.”
Rant # lostcount – American Idol sucks donkey balls and should be used instead of waterboarding to extract information from suspected terrorists. J watched it too, btw. I don’t get it. Do straight males watch this, seriously?
Rant #million – Mine are too old for me to look forward to them returning to school in the Fall. I miss that, but I can tell them to go home now. That’s nice.
“Mount Pleasant, SC
Currently Partly Cloudy
88.7 °F”
I hate you.
“Do straight males watch this, seriously?”
I dont know. Master doesn’t. He makes fun of me for it.
“Spank sounds like fun. Need to consider that.”
You really should! That would awesomely fun. We’ll loan you a sleeping bag.
“It happened. It’s done. There is no going back in time and changing it. So while you sit over there and rant about that awful parenting of mine, I’ll be cuddling my granddaughter and helping my daughter become a mother.”
That is parenting. That is motherhood. That made me smile.
Thanks! Just wait til she’s born. This place’ll be “all grandma network, all the time”.
ok.. gonna tackle a couple of those million rants……
1) the preggie teen…… hey i’ve been there.. got the tshirt and threw it away…
i remember thinking when she told me she had had a “little accident” that i was so glad my mom and dad weren’t alive .. cause they would have torn a strip off me for being such a bad mom…….
and i was worried sick.. she was my “party girl” and how in god’s name was she gonna settle down and raise this “lil accident”??
Now – 8 years later – i can honestly and truly say… i am the proudest mom and grandmom around… she has given me two wonderful boys and there is a 3rd baby (sex still unknown) on the way.
ohhhhh i had great plans for this wild child of mine… but ya know what??? she made some great choices all on her own…. she grew up…. and i am so very glad she did…….
and all those folks who tsked tsked at her pregnancy.. they can all go take a long walk off a short pier !!!
ok.. and then there was the two days of school left….?? !! kaya i absolutely FORBID you to talk about 2 days of school left….. *i* still have 21 school days left……. 21 !!! i moan and whine and wonder if i am gonna make it…… so don’t you DARE say one more word about school ending there ok?? cause oh my god !!! that makes me more of a green eyed monster than “under the desk” envy.. LOL
morningstar (owned by Warren)
21 days??? 21?!! That sucks! What kind of school system do you work for anyway?!
“there is a 3rd baby (sex still unknown) on the way.”
Congrats! Did I know about this? Did I miss the memo? That is terrific!
Kaya,
I’ve encoiuntered people like your FIL and it’s just sad. They truly have no idea what they’re doinh to the people they treat like this (or they are doing it on purpose for the express reason to cause pain). I’ve had ex-friends do that to me, and it sucks rotten eggs.
Who in the name of God is FR, and where does s/he get off dissing on Jes? I juts want to slap this asshole upside the head. With my luck, it’s probably some supposed “Christian” giving the rest of us a bad name with their judgementalism. All your kids need that unconditional love that parents give their kids, but of them, Jes needs it even more. I’m sure, inside her mind and heart, she’s judging herself harder than anyone else might; she doesn’t need some ass telling her she’s right! And, as you know so well, it’s only going to get harder. She’s lucky to have you and Scott for parents.
I’m with Dr_BuzzCzar on AI. I have an intense dislike of all “reality” programs. So many seem to be making money off of promoting backstabbing and greed. Oh well.
I looked at that recipe and my first thought was, “brown sugar and ginger?” No wonder it turned out horrible. Those two flavors do NOT belong in the same dish. Plus, I’ve never slow cooked anything that turned out edible.
I’m right there on the need to lose weight. Since the heart incident I’m down 36 pounds, though 30 of that was from far too much water retention from too much salt in my diet (check out the sodium on Top Rammen, and then shudder to think of eating two packages in one meal). I was 320 this morning and hope to be 300 by the middle of August when I head out to visit friends. For me, the trick will be keeping my calories to 2000 or less (I don’t even want to think of what I was eating before the hospital).
I won’t tell you about the summer days we’re having here in Spokane, Washington (high 86, low 55).
Dave
FR is nobody. I wasted too much time and energy on her already.
Reality programming is practically all that’s on anymore. And I admit it, I’m a junkie these days. What I can’t watch, I dvr so I can watch it later. *sigh*
Great job on the 36lbs. That’s nothing to shrug at! Keep it up.
Hey kaya!
i have been in the distance for quite some time, reading your blog. i’ve never really taken part in the whole discussion thing…rather i just find myself nodding with agreement or disagreement.
your rants really were vulnerable, and sparked me even. i just wanted to say that your outlook on your parenting is great girl! i dont have any kids myself, but i see some of these parents who are piss poor excuses for parents, or shelter them, and shame them for any wrong doing they may act upon, while in the whole process of “learning and growing” thats why they call it that RIGHT?
you being there for your daughter and her baby is thee best thing not ONLY for her and the baby, but also for you as well. regardless of all the hard shit that might come with being there. even when she is 30 and your walking to the bathroom with a walker, she’s always going to need you…..same goes for your other daughter and son as well.
your rants are yours….and i hope you felt better after purging some of that anger out. you can’t control anyone and no one can control you…well,, except that of which you give to your Master!
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and these people who have every judgement and opinion about everyone else, are just too afraid to “live” themselves, and need to use a mask/scapegoat to cover their own “shitty” selves. doesnt make them born assholes…just closed minded, constipated thinkers!!!
peace n luv!
I absolutely do feel better after “purging”.
Sort of. Immediately after I feel great!
But later after, like today? There’s some shame. For being… weak I guess? For not being “strong” enough to not let things eat at me.
Bah. Anyway. What’s done is done and the rants are out there. I don’t delete entries soooo…
p.s….i too am a fellow michigander and this shit SUCKS!!! i’m tired of having to wear jeans with a tank top and having to carry my hoodie with me because the fucking weather cant make up its mind!!! and i’m sick of hearing the fucking heat going on through the vents!!!!
peace n luv
Where abouts are ya?
i love your blog read it everyday. you are one of the most articulate people i have ever come across. i am not part of your lifestyle. but i totally honor it. i have been on a great diet fyi.
fat free yogurt in the morning and snacking between with almonds,
sunflower seeds, and pumpkin seeds (good for us women) including pms and salad and a piece of protein at night (uh food that is lol). lots of energy too. i have lost 12 pounds in 10 days. i limit my caffeine fix to the morning and water or herbal tea the rest of the day. you are a beautiful woman and this will do wonders. hey that yoplait add works! i got to thinking about CHOCOLATE last night and went got a boston cream pie yogurt and poof it went away!!!!!!!!!! and i LOVE chocolate. hope this might help…..
How do you do your salads? Seems like if you aren’t careful you can end up with more fat and calories with a salad than if you ate pasta or something.
But 12lbs in 10 days is *awesome*! Good job!
You know what’s funny? There are hundreds (thousands?) of us who come every day to read your blog. We think you are funny and interesting. We agree with you in comments. We are groupies. We want you to notice us. We want to be your friends.
There are some creepy ones, some stalker-y ones, some mean ones. Not very many, but those are the ones that stand out aren’t they?
Its easy to focus on the bad stuff but the numbers are running heavily in your favour. Ignore the bad.
sin
I know. You are so very right.
I don’t know why the bad stands out so starkly. I’ve pondered this before.
At any rate, I promise you that all of you nice people are noticed. If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t even do this. I’d have no reason to. So, if you could think of the fact that I come back here day after day to write as my way of showing that I notice and appreciate people like you? Then surely, the good outweights the bad even on my end?
I hope so anyway. If not, I need to do some serious re-thinking.
I have some rants i want to share.
#1 – I’m seriously addicted to your blog and i might need rehab.
#2- It’s so hot here in Texas i wish i could send it your way. I just can’t handle this heat.
#3- If you are a fat ass i’m a HIPPO….
Big Hugs
His mija~
“#3- If you are a fat ass i’m a HIPPO….”
LOL!
Have you seen any naked pictures of me lately? For real, we can wade in the hippo pool together if ya want.
Okay, so no chocolates in the box…noted!
Try not to spend too much energy on twats that annoy you. You’re a wonderful mother and a beautiful person.
Just send some of those cold degrees our way please. I’ll send you some of the hot weather in return.
Well now, let’s not get too hasty with the no-chocolate thing! A *couple* of pieces surely can’t hurt too much!
rant all you want kaya, that’s the kind of poison you need to let out. (it can cause ulsers ya know)
relatives sometimes SUCK,
some people are too oppinionated and need a CLUE about the diff between a comment and an irritation,
try living in northern new england,
you could have volunteered to make a five course dinner for 100 people,
I’ll be on that diet with you,
try boycotting AI (I did this year, I only watched the last two weeks,
And I know just from reading your blog just how much you love your kids no matter how much they might argue and fight with each other(*grins*)
anywho…I just thought I’d step out of lurkerland and say how much I look forward to reading what’s in your thoughts/on your mind. I stop in to see what’s up almost daily.
All the best
K-J
I say I’m going to boycott AI every year. And then I can’t. I think I have a serious crush on Simon.
You just know he’s a dom. He’s too mean not to be!
you did see I that I caved in the end, right? I always cave…sigh.
Rant one: I agree with you. If these people want to visit with their children or talk to them, they should take it upon themselves to make that connection since they are the adults. Hell, if your kids were that young when you divorced their dad, then of course they won’t know his side of the family that well to want to establish contact with them.
Rant two: Oh, my deity…don’t get me started. I haven’t been pregnant, but I’m fed up with people bitching about teen parents and unwed parents. Seriously? As long as a child is being nurtured and not abused by anyone…I don’t fucking care what the martial status is of the parents as well as how old they are.
“As long as a child is being nurtured and not abused by anyone”
Thank you! God. I’m so tired of the message being sent that the only way a child stands a chance is to have two heterosexual parents and a white picket fence with a dog in the backyard.
Actually some of us? Did just fine. Single, young, poor, whatever. None of that is what necessarily makes or breaks a good parent.
Oh, I’m very defensive on this subject. I have to laugh when people wonder why I get defensive if I wasn’t born into a single-parent family, wasn’t poor, and both weren’t gay. I may haven’t, but I have family and friends that were.
My SO is vehemently against marriage because he grew up in a marriage where his parents hated each other and his dad was verbally as well as emotionally abusive to his mom. We wonder why they haven’t gotten a divorce yet, but I sometimes think he just uses her since she’s the bread winner and he hasn’t paid for a lot of things.
When my great-grandmother (mom’s mom’s mom) was pregnant with my grandma, she lied to a guy that the baby was his in order for him to marry her. Well, because the guy found out my grandma wasn’t his, he treated her like shit (like physically and verbally abused her). It’s a situation that proves that it’s better to remain unwedded than get married becuase my grandmother would’ve been better off without a father in that situation. Oh, and they were poor.
Sometimes, I’m tempted to be a smart ass to people that go “Oh, if a child has two gay/lesbian parents…they will turn out gay too!” my response? “Oh really? If that was the case, do explain how both of my parents are heterosexual and I am bisexual”.
I luffs your rants I do! They make me squee with joy.
“Ex” Inlaws … suck … simple. Fuck them and their guilt trips. I get em too. Pure bullshit.
As for little Miss Stepford “My Life is More Perfect Than a Rose” fuck her too. People like that make me giggle, they wouldn’t know what “life” was if it hit them square between the eyeballs.
xxx
I am. I am fucking them and their guilt trips. By God. Enough is enough!
That recipe *looks* like dog food. Have I mentioned how much I hate your ex and his family?
And I’m a drama monger (or so I’ve been told) so I really, really wanna know who this RF is. Or was it FR? I’m not scrolling up to see. Lol.
It does look like dog food. What the hell was I thinking?!
Drama monger. Hee. Do we get badges or anything??
You go girl. Exhusband’s, Exfamilies….. They are all the same…. I have an ex…. fuck him also!
I agree! Fuck em!
I work 12 hours a dsy with all men and i am the boss and dispatch trucks, so when i get stressed, i eat. the nuts hold your blood sugar level so that you just fix a normal salad, anything fresh.
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yesterday i had lettuce,peppers, tomatoes, a sprinkle of cheese and ANY kind of dressing with moderation. remember the key is no wheat no sugar except the yogurt. i know you need to run this by Master.
see if it works, i am 51 had polysystic ovarian disorder and after 6 surgeries i had a hysterctomy at 36. the pumpkin seeds help your hormones. i would love to see if this works for someone else. and
the beauty of it is you can eat with your family at night with your
salad or steamed vegetables with the meat you make them. i cant always get on the internet …if you like you can e mail me. i would love a diet buddy….if you are allowed of course…oh and they make chocolate yogurt. and reward yourself with a nibble now and then…with permission. i feel better than i have in 20 years!
send some cold weather to Georgia! i am wilting here and these men are driving me NUTS! OH well who IS the boss here?!
another chocolate option would be to get the Dove promises with almonds. IF you can manage to eat just one or two and not the whole bag that is! There is a also a product called vitatops that are healthy, 100 calorie muffin top type goodies in several flavors. Buy from vitalicious.com. Weight Watchers endorses them and they are very good.
Good luck on the healthy eating plan.
“When I was in Illinois, I wore shorts. And I was sweating!
You must have been here Memorial Day weekend. That’s been the only warm time this year.
As for Jess and the baby, you keep doing what you’re doing.
It was Memorial Day weekend! And it was *beautiful*.
I worked 12 hours on fri, sat, sun, and mon. of memorial day weeekend. Bahhh. (in illinois)
Having to deal with a partner’s family is one of the reasons why I don’t think I’d do well in a relationship. If I can’t stand them I won’t be around them, and that probably wouldn’t go over well with my partner unless they can’t stand them, too. I can be polite, but I refuse to take shit from anyone. My partner can hang out with them all they like, but count me out. Life’s too short to spend it with people you don’t like/hate.
Oh, btw, I think Adam is way overrated and I’m glad Kris won. :-p Adam’s vocal styling grated on my nerves.
My biological grandmother and grandfather have nothing to do with me because they had a fight (a really stupid fight over the DOG) with my dad. His sister doesn’t talk to me because I never called her to thank her for the gift card she sent me for Xmas while living out of town (that I never received). My grandmother saw Asher once, when he was a week old, and that’s it…
I’m okay with it. I’ve called them a few times, always getting the answering machine and no call back. Okay, it’s cool. Save your cash at Christmas and leave me alone.
My mom’s side of the family doesn’t talk to me because, when my grandmother was on life support, my mom made the decision (with her three siblings) to pull the plug. (Grandma died in seven minutes – she was BRAIN DEAD). Well, all Grandma’s siblings decided that my mother KILLED her own mother, and should’ve paid to put her in a nursing home forever and ever. So, they don’t talk to me, don’t acknowledge my existance.
I’m okay with that.
Daddy’s parents don’t really talk with us – his Dad hasn’t contacted us since we moved up here a few years ago, and his mom only calls every once in awhile to go, “You still have a monther, did you FORGET?”) I’m okay with it.
I prefer to fill my life with the family of MY choosing.
Speaking of family – look at me and my own kid. I was a little older than Jes – I was 20 for all of 25 days before he was born. I don’t ‘technically’ get the Teen Mommy award, but yanno what? That’s where I put myself. Why? Because I was young and dumb and unstable in so many ways, and didn’t even WANT a kid…in fact I was on the pill. (Was Jes? I think I remember you saying that. If so, was she on Ortho Trycyclene? Because EVERY woman that’s got a pill baby that I know of was on that specific one…) Anyway… I think I’m doing okay. I’m not perfect. Who is? I struggle, every day. But…my kid’s a good boy. He’s smart, in his own way. He’s huge and rough and tumble – but gentle with all of our pets. He’s compassionate. He uses his manners. He still chews with his mouth open and argues with me at every opportunity and refuses to wipe his own ass…BUT…I love him. If I could turn back time to not have a baby, or even to do it differently…I would not.
And I’m going to watch his PRESCHOOL GRADUATION in just a little while. My heart is bursting and breaking all at once. Y’all will be just fine when that little girl gets here.
And…fatass? I doubt it. Even if you are…your body is just a house for your soul. Don’t forget to love it, even if it’s not the shape you’d like it to be.
*Hugs*
Heheh, I do love your rants. But srsly, Illinois is steaming hot. We spent the first few days of June burning to death because air conditioning is expensive. And last night? It was so cold I had to pile on our winter down comforter! Our weather just isn’t right.
I don’t usually comment- just a lurker here. Plus, I’m kida vanilla so I don’t have much to add to the kink side of things. But… stuff about weight I know! I have gotten thin (maybe too thin for your master !) and stayed thin for over a decade eating low carb. Once you get it down it’s simple. It may take a bit of resesarch, but since you are into all things domestic and cooking, it might be an interesting hobby.
Dude, Spank Fest sounds awesome
I heart Kink education and awareness
Sadly, I’ll be in Ireland during that time but have fun for me!