Wife vs. Slave- The Cage Match

For once, this isn’t my internal battle. Not that I don’t ever find myself confusing the roles, that’s just not my post for today.

There’s an interesting debate going on over at Fet. about marriage proposals. The original question was about the idea of a slave being ordered to marry their Master rather than being asked and given the option of refusing.

The replies were a mixed bag as they usually are, though it seemed to lean more heavily toward the Master having to ask and the slave having the option of saying no.

And that seriously, seriously confuses me.

It just highlights the extreme differences in how people view M/s. Which doesn’t surprise me, except… Yeah. It does. Every time I’m confronted with how differently M/s is viewed, I’m surprised all over again. I can’t help it. I’m naive or stupid or whatever.

To me, it just seems very backwards to be M/s and then see a marriage proposal as optional.

I guess I see the commitment to being his slave as an already binding and permanent role so the very concept of having the option of refusing marriage- or refusing anything for that matter- is.. weird.

As I said over there: I take my commitment as his slave far more serously than marriage. I’ve been married before- it didn’t work. I have not been anyone else’s slave. That only works with him, so, for me, that’s a much deeper commitment.

Dissolve the marriage and we’d still be Master and slave. Dissolve the M/s- and we’d not be together. It’s not the marriage that binds us.

It’s almost like first birthing a kid and then later asking him if you can be his parent. You’re already the parent, there is no choosing after the fact.

Likewise, he already owned me. On what basis could I have possibly refused a marriage proposal??

I don’t know. Another case of me coming from Mars or something. Very very odd.

So what do you think?

Would you find an order to get married to be hot or not? (It’s hot in my book. A-fucking-men. Take my ass! Own it! Rawr!)

Do you see M/s as more of a partnership or, hmm, something less “extreme” as a marriage? Because that was the impression I was getting through reading the thread; that while accepting him/her as your Master was one thing, marriage was something else entirely and should not be entered into “lightly”– whereas I come from the complete opposite direction, that M/s should not be entered into “lightly”.

Of course, it was all ruined for me anyway as soon as the words “true” and “gift” entered into the convo. Gah. Stoopid romanticizing of M/s anyway. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Pa-tooey!

~cunt

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