We’re having dirt for supper.
Actually we’re having pot roast and garlic mashed potatoes for supper, but I WANT some of that there dirty dessert that I made.
It’s imperative that I figure out this begging thing before 5pm! I have to beg for chocolate!
You know what I love about this journal the very most? I can be feeling like the biggest failure, like the only one in the world who can’t master a simple request, but I post it here and find out that I’m not alone at all. That a lot of you struggle with the same stuff. I love that.
I’m totally in on the “care and feeding of your Dominant” handbook, missa. *snicker* We really should contribute to a manual of some sort. 
I liked what Leathers had to say in this comment. I can understand that, BUT, like most everyone else who commented, the persistence, to me, begins to feel like whining and would be irritating (I would think?). You use the child in the grocery store example, and that’s also a perfect example of WHY I wouldn’t want to do that. Even in a more appropriate, adult like manner, it’s still whining. Or feels like whining. It feels manipulative to use the “begging” to “force” Him to give me what I want.
Or I’m just looking at it completely wrong. I don’t know!
I like what teasybratt said here too. But, if what He wanted was to hear and see my “emotional degradation”, it would be sufficient that I stand there in front of Him, blushing and wringing my hands and *trying* to come up with something to say. And it’s not, at least not always. When that is enough and I get what I’ve “begged” for, I think it’s more that He takes pity upon me than that I’ve pleased Him with my begging skills.
Bah.
Well, I am taking extreme personal comfort in knowing that most of you suffer this embarrassment with me. I’ll be thinking of all of you when I’m pathetically trying to beg for that chocolate dirty dessert tonight!
~cunt
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September 26, 2007 3:05 pm
That is one of the things I am enjoying about being involved in the kink community for the first time — you’re never alone in a problem. Someone else has faced it, and maybe they’ve got a solution, or maybe they’ve just got sympathy, but you’re not alone.
Nice feeling, isn’t it.
at the same don’t you realise, THEY KNOW that we’re going to suck at it? it’s way more humiliating – … I dont know maybe I’m trying to say that.. they’re setting us up to fail. Purposely. I don’t think it would matter how “great” we were at it, they’d still say it sucked…
Does that make sense?
Its a mind fuck. A head game.
My own enlightenment
See, I am all about just asking. THIS shaking my head laughing this is what I got when I asked.
Empress_Happy_Pants: So why DO dominants like the begging thing? ok…rephrase…YOU
Mr Man: 1…Because I know it’s not natural for you so it’s something you have to work at
Mr Man: 2…Cause I like a little humiliation play…
Mr Man: 3…Simply put…it’s damned funny
Mr Man: and I’m all about my own entertainment
Now, personally I AM going to come up with some very creative, very “for his amusement” scripts for the general begging. Begging when I want it most….well I will just continue to stutter and stammer I am sure, much to his general hilarity.
I honestly believe you’re overthinking the whole thing kaya. Your task is to beg, and you’re not necessarily going to get what you’re begging for, BUT you need to put your best effort at it forward, at least in order to get that to what you’re wanting. So whether it sounds whiny or not isn’t the point, that’s not for you to decide anyway is it?
He wants you to beg for it, so dig deep inside yourself for that need, that want and express it. You’re trying to convince him of your needs and if you end up whining a bit, so what? Its all a part of the whole and are you worried about being embarrassed about it? Making a fool of yourself in the process? Why? You’re doing what he wants you to do, correct? What could be embarrassing or foolish about doing what he wants…hm?
I’m starting to flog the topic to death here, I hope your performance is worthy of getting that dessert.
Thank you for that perspective.
Hey Kaya,
What is that dessert? Looks tasty. Can you post the recipe? Pretty please with a cherry on top
I know someone who’d give his little slut lots of kudos for a dessert like that when i see him in a few weeks time. He’s a chocoholic too!
Px
lol.. nice begging!
It’s really simple and really fun. It’s chocolate pudding (some people layer it with whip cream in the middle of two pudding layers but I don’t) spread in a pan. Grind up some oreo cookies to a really fine “dirt”, sprinkle that over the pudding and then add the worms or flowers or whatever candies to make it look FUN.
If you like vanilla better, you can use vanilla pudding and vanilla cookies to make “sand”. But who likes vanilla!
i have the same problem. To me it just sounds like i am whining. Taking Leather’s child in the grocery store analogy, growing up, i think most of us were taught that whining, begging never got us anything. If we behaved, asked politely, respectfully we were more apt to get what we asked for. At least if it was something with in reason and means. That training, conditioning is very hard to break out of.
Fyre and i have talked a few times about begging. i’ve explained that i struggle with the whole worrying about sounding like a whinny child. He has repeatedly told me that i am more worried about how i sound to myself, than how i sound to him. When i stopped to think about that, i realized he was right. i am more concerned with my perception than his. i’m still working to get past that. Trying to get the words to match the need is hard. i can write the words in email or journal, but they don’t always make it from brain to mouth quite the way i want them to. So i keep trying, sooner or later i’ll figure it out. Or at the very least i’ll stop listening to the voices in my head telling me to suck it up and stop whining.
A Close Cousin to Begging
This post
http://asparkle2.blogspot.com/
just cracked me up. And I believe that it exemplifies a very close cousin to begging. In my mind, what that age group does comes about the closest. Just pick the phrase, keep repeating it over and over, but change the inflection frequently.
LynLass
i’m a little embarrassed to admit that i LOVE begging. it’s a creative exercise and i just spew it out. maybe it’s easier because it has mostly been done on line. once i had to write out pages of the stuff, by hand in my little book, and then send him photographs of the pages. he grudgingly admitted to being impressed, and granted my request (i think i was begging for forgiveness for some mis-deed or other). i have occasionally had to beg for an orgasm, as they are always granted only one at a time, and in those cases i am so incredibly desperate that it doesn’t take any effort, as the extreme need just bubbles out.
maybe one reason begging isn’t hard for me is because it doesn’t embarrass me. it is a form of interaction between us, and therefore, in the end, pleasurable .
oatmeal girl
Well, given you’re begging for food… you could kneel, pick your paws um hands up in front and curl them, and do as my dogs used to do.
*hmp hmp hmp hmp hmmmmp?*
Or just make GREAT BIG EYES. O_______O
Big, soulful begging eyes.
And the occasional licking of your lips, like you’re drooling a bit, because CHOCOLATE.
Then you might be able to get away with just a ‘pleeeeease’ or somesuch.
Worth a try!
well, hun, I hope the begging thing worked out for you ’cause that’s a tasty looking cake.
ps. The tack bra came in the mail yesterday. I haven’t quite decided if I should love you or hate you for that. But I do need to thank you for it anyways ’cause that’s proper manners and all.