20 Questions- BDSM Style
I ganked this from subtle.
Tell me your deepest, darkest secrets and I’ll tell you mine…
1. Your role?
I’m the cunt. The role of cunt fluctuates according to Master’s whim. The only constant is that I am at the bottom of the totem pole.
2. Current relationship?
Married to my Owner.
3. Your favourite type of play?
Bondage sex. Lots of it.
4. Your most hated type of play?
Anything that does not involve bondage sex. Pain purely for the pain when there will be no bondage sex to follow? Sucks. Sex that does not include bondage? Sucks. (well maybe not sucks but not AS GOOD AS bondage sex)
5. The most annoying habit of your owner/slave/whatever you call your SO?
He talks too much. I don’t mean in general, but during play, he talks too much. I don’t like to talk when I’m all hurty. I want to burrow and hide. He doesn’t let me.
And, his insistence that I not be social hermit, or that I somehow make myself enjoy making a public spectacle of myself. Ain’t gonna happen. I’m perfectly content to sit on the sidelines. Stop trying to shove me into the spotlight, mmmkay?
6. Your deepest fear?
Being left. That I’ll somehow become unworthy of him.
7. Your most memorable public experience (or what you would like to do in public)?
Most memorable would have to be the pee-pool at Spankfest.
8. What gets you in the mood?
Bondage sex.
Notice a theme here??
9. Favourite method of masturbation?
A dark room, my pocket rocket, and my imagination.
10. Scariest thing you’ve seen or heard of in BDSM land?
The whole hook suspension thing. Yeah. I’m so not going there.
11. Number of hours you spend on iFet when you should be doing other things?
Not so much anymore. Fet, for the time being, seems to have lost its appeal.
12.Thing that was hotter in fantasy than it was in reality?
Enemas. Ass pillaging. Long-term caging/confinement (I got so. bloody. bored.)
13. Most longed-for experience?
Long-term caging/confinement. LOL. Just.. I can haz books, pleaz?
14. Ouchiest toy?
The Blue Stick still holds that title. But the misery stick is right up there too. And clover clamps. Actually, they can ALL be right up there or not there at all. It depends on how they’re wielded.
15.Book or movie that every newbie has to read/see?
Gah. I’ve never made it through a single bdsm how-to book. I’ve made it through a couple of fictional bdsm-y stories, but I’d never label them as a must-read.
The only bdsm movie I’ve seen is Secretary, which… meh… it wasn’t terrible but it had so many things wrong with it that I’d also not call it a must-see.
So.. I dunno. Master tends to recommend Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns to newbies who ask for book ideas but I’ve not read it so I have no idea what is even in it.
16. Thing you’d like to change about yourself?
My weight. My libido.
They’re probably connected anyway.
17.Thing you’re most proud of?
That I did it. The whole falling down the rabbit hole thing. It was scary and nerve-wracking and parts of me wanted to hang on to the edge, and retain control… and I didn’t. I let go.
And it’s been… amazing. It’s still amazing. Every day is amazing.
18.Funniest dom name you’ve ever heard?
I get amused by nicks that are movie characters. Or any reference to penis size.
19. Do your family and friends know?
My friends know because the only friends I have are lifestyle, except for one. And even she made a couple of tentative steps on this path with me.
I have no idea what my family thinks. I’m not around them, nor do I talk to them enough to open myself up to their opinion. Probably they know nothing because they also can’t observe how we interact.
If they knew, I’d expect they would not approve.
My kids, the two older girls anyway, have a fairly accurate idea of what we’re about and what we do. They’re about as squicked out about it as any teenager is when they imagine the intimate goings-on of their parents. Beyond that, they really just don’t care.
20. Is twenty questions too many?
Too many to talk about myself? Heck no! I could do 20 more! ;-)
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Uncategorized | kaya | 
Wednesday December 30th, 2009 6:57am
Great list!
Hugs,
kitten
[rq=1676655,0,blog][/rq]December 28th
You gonna do it? :)
I didn’t know about him talking during play. That’s funny (in a hahaha funny kindof way).
1. Your role?
I’m the girl. He’s in charge always, and I’m not – Ever. If I had to give myself a title, it would be property or slave. Whenever I’ve brought up the title thing he just growls and says “I’m the boss, period.”
2. Current relationship?
Engaged to my owner.
3. Your favourite type of play?
Rough sex.
4. Your most hated type of play?
I hate it when he gags me with his dick and pushes my head down so I can’t breathe. Makes my eyes water and I get panicky.
5. The most annoying habit of your owner/slave/whatever you call your SO?
He makes me follow him around waiting for his instructions. I feel like a dog because he says “Come” with his manly voice and then I just stand around waiting for him to want something. What’s even worse is that we have a dog and the dog comes too because he uses the same voice. So me and the dog just follow him around (not doing all of the other stuff I need to be getting done) waiting for him to tell me to get something or hand him something or do something, or even worse – nothing. He doesn’t need anything, just wants me to follow him around and stand there.
6. Your deepest fear?
That something will happen to him or my daughter. Couldn’t stand losing either one of them.
7. Your most memorable public experience (or what you would like to do in public)?
Would have to be the first sex party we went to. Loved it. Naked people everywhere. Yummy, I was hooked.
8. What gets you in the mood?
Him telling me what he’s going to do to me. The anticipation just kills me, patience is not an attribute I’ve mastered.
9. Favourite method of masturbation?
Home alone, bondage porn, with my hitachi and other implements of pleasure.
10. Scariest thing you’ve seen or heard of in BDSM land?
That anal hook thing that suspends you. Scary, scary, scary.
11. Number of hours you spend on iFet when you should be doing other things?
Not much. Fet is getting old, I spend more time on Literotica reading stories when I should be doing other things.
12.Thing that was hotter in fantasy than it was in reality?
Sex with strangers – sport fucking.
13. Most longed-for experience?
3 guys at one time.
14. Ouchiest toy?
It’s not a toy, but the ouchiest thing he uses is the rubber spatula in the kitchen. It is really stingy and when he wields it, it isn’t for pleasure, so yeah, it sucks.
15.Book or movie that every newbie has to read/see?
None, I’ve never read one or seen a movie.
16. Thing you’d like to change about yourself?
My age. It can’t be changed, but I wish I was younger so we could have a child together and I could be the young, hot babe.
17.Thing you’re most proud of?
Turning myself around after my divorce 10 years ago. I went into a deep state of depression – like suicidal, cried all the time, just really, really sad. One day the ex told me I was nothing but a weak little lamb – and that was all it took for me to pick myself up. Now I am a completely different person once I quit being the victim. (Really fucking him in the divorce did wonders for my mood too!)
18.Funniest dom name you’ve ever heard?
I’ve got to think more on this one.
19. Do your family and friends know?
They know he is the boss and I do what I’m told. Since our friends aren’t in the lifestyle, they try to convert me all the time. He tones it down in front of my family, but not in front of friends. My Mom doesn’t understand and doesn’t like it, but she knows I’m happy and he is good for me, so she doesn’t say much anymore.
It was probably toughest on my teen because she is pretty head strong and did not like me deferring to him at first. She is fine now, it’s just the way things are and we’re all in a rhythm now. Also, she has developed her own relationship with him and they have a lot of respect for each other. He gives (and has taught me) her more freedom, but holds her accountable. I just treated her like a little kid and always did everything for her.
20. Is twenty questions too many?
Nope, not too many.
Number 5 made me snicker. Master’s dog (before we had to put him down) and I would react the same way to him snapping his fingers. We’d both jump and run. :)
fun list! and I would’ve be totally surprised if you’d put anything down other than the pee-pool at Spank!!! You’ve made that one of my mad-crazy fantasies…urg…don’t tell ANYONE! hee….
nilla
ps hows the hair (wink)??
[rq=1678675,0,blog][/rq]FFF OOPS
The hair is still there..lol.
Now that the pool thing is OVER, I can look back on it with fondness. At the time… well shit. It was still hawt. :P
Pain purely for the pain when there will be no bondage sex to follow?
Sounds like the black eye picture you posted.
Been reading for two years. After that flip posting of the domestic violence picture, it’s a new years resolution to stop. Bye!
As I didn’t know you were reading in the first place, it’s pretty likely I won’t miss you when you’re gone. :)
*waves bye to Lee*
I just love that your most-longed for experience and the thing that was hotter as a fantasy are one and the same. You’re a woman after my own heart :)
[rq=1684110,0,blog][/rq]It’s a long one…
This was a great 20 questions. I had fun. :)
I totally stole this today.
[rq=1887229,0,blog][/rq]The One Where I Give M More Ammunition for His Arsenal
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