Comments on: “You never find yourself until you face the truth” http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:15:24 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Absence, Punishment & Fantasies….Oh My! « Midwest Maiden http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3523 Absence, Punishment & Fantasies….Oh My! « Midwest Maiden Sat, 22 Mar 2008 22:09:22 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3523 [...] the other day Kaya did a post about fantasies and it made things a whole lot more clear to me.  Most of my fantasies [...] [...] the other day Kaya did a post about fantasies and it made things a whole lot more clear to me.  Most of my fantasies [...]

]]> By: Sunnilady http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3487 Sunnilady Wed, 19 Mar 2008 18:18:47 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3487 Thats about the most bizzare heavy duty fantasy I've heard in a long time and it had it's moments where I was like ok, why that? but heh, its your fantasy not mine. I too get into the abuse me use me like the whore I am fantasy but mine is more related to multiple men over and over until I no longer exsist kind of thing. The smelly dirty guy adds "flavor" to the disgust mentality and yet again he isn't your husband for all the right reasons. This fantasy is just that and it should remain so because if it happens it will lose its luster. I like the fantasies that aren't easy to talk about but are so fulfilling in ways that nobody else can quite bring to you. Love is a fantasy killer but essential to your being Thats about the most bizzare heavy duty fantasy I’ve heard in a long time and it had it’s moments where I was like ok, why that? but heh, its your fantasy not mine. I too get into the abuse me use me like the whore I am fantasy but mine is more related to multiple men over and over until I no longer exsist kind of thing. The smelly dirty guy adds “flavor” to the disgust mentality and yet again he isn’t your husband for all the right reasons. This fantasy is just that and it should remain so because if it happens it will lose its luster.

I like the fantasies that aren’t easy to talk about but are so fulfilling in ways that nobody else can quite bring to you.

Love is a fantasy killer but essential to your being

]]> By: Chessa http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3482 Chessa Wed, 19 Mar 2008 04:37:32 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3482 Thank you SO, SO much for this post! I've just recently started dabbling in bdsm and making some of my littler type fantasies a reality. I was a little dismayed though because it seemed like once they happened, they lost their lure when I masturbated. Granted, I still got there...just took a lot longer. But after I read this I stepped my fantasies up a little - to the realm of the "never" world, stopped imagining my boy and replaced him with a random guy and wa-la! Perfect quickie orgasm has returned!! Anyone ever tell you you're a genius?? ;) Thank you SO, SO much for this post! I’ve just recently started dabbling in bdsm and making some of my littler type fantasies a reality. I was a little dismayed though because it seemed like once they happened, they lost their lure when I masturbated. Granted, I still got there…just took a lot longer. But after I read this I stepped my fantasies up a little – to the realm of the “never” world, stopped imagining my boy and replaced him with a random guy and wa-la! Perfect quickie orgasm has returned!!

Anyone ever tell you you’re a genius?? ;)

]]> By: Gelt_Guy http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3481 Gelt_Guy Wed, 19 Mar 2008 04:10:23 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3481 If your dreams come true, does that mean you no longer dream? I don't think so. I don't think the person who wins the lottery ceases to day dream about "how nice it would be if only..." Sure, the content of the dreams change, but not the fact of them (maybe the bazillionaires dream of a simpler life without sycophants; maybe the celebs dream of being unknown). So... dreams coming true just means you need new dreams. And if <i>they</i> come true, well, you'll need yet another set. And so to fantasies. If a fantasy comes true, the inner urge to fantasize doesn't go away, and no-one fantasizes about reality -- that's what we <i>live</i>. People need to think of stuff they don't have or don't live or are not. Everyone does. It's the biological urge to improve, to change for the better. So if a dream or fanstasy comes true (or nearly true), it ceases to do the job, and our minds need a new challenge... If your dreams come true, does that mean you no longer dream?

I don’t think so. I don’t think the person who wins the lottery ceases to day dream about “how nice it would be if only…” Sure, the content of the dreams change, but not the fact of them (maybe the bazillionaires dream of a simpler life without sycophants; maybe the celebs dream of being unknown).

So… dreams coming true just means you need new dreams. And if they come true, well, you’ll need yet another set.

And so to fantasies. If a fantasy comes true, the inner urge to fantasize doesn’t go away, and no-one fantasizes about reality — that’s what we live.

People need to think of stuff they don’t have or don’t live or are not. Everyone does. It’s the biological urge to improve, to change for the better. So if a dream or fanstasy comes true (or nearly true), it ceases to do the job, and our minds need a new challenge…

]]> By: DL's toy http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3477 DL's toy Tue, 18 Mar 2008 23:08:50 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3477 Very fine point made by Alyson. i think she has a point. Funny how so many of us have these orgasm cues like this. It was vivid, and fucking a... hot! So finally, thanks for writing about your vision. Did you read mine yet? We both have a thing for being fucked too much, huh? lol xoxx Very fine point made by Alyson. i think she has a point. Funny how so many of us have these orgasm cues like this. It was vivid, and fucking a… hot! So finally, thanks for writing about your vision. Did you read mine yet?

We both have a thing for being fucked too much, huh? lol
xoxx

]]> By: Mr. Upton Ogood http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3474 Mr. Upton Ogood Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:52:15 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3474 If you think about a cross between George "Gabby" Hayes and William Daniels, and you agree that -that- image would fit, then I'd be perfect type casting. I'm the type, after all. Upton, the unkempt, Ogood If you think about a cross between George “Gabby” Hayes and William Daniels, and you agree that -that- image would fit, then I’d be perfect type casting. I’m the type, after all.

Upton, the unkempt, Ogood

]]> By: alyson http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3473 alyson Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:49:10 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3473 I had to wonder while reading this if some of the reason it works so well is that it will always be an unfulfilled fantasy because your Master cannot be that impersonal and uncaring with you. I wonder if some of the emotional pain of knowing you won't ever quite get it might add to the excitement of it. I can't remember if you identify as a masochist, but masochism isn't necessarily "just" a physical pain thing, but could mean getting pleasure out of fantasies that can never exist because it hurts to think that they won't exist. An intense fantasy, but not one that actually surprised me after reading your journal. (I'm the sort of person who when I found this journal went back and read all your back entries) I had to wonder while reading this if some of the reason it works so well is that it will always be an unfulfilled fantasy because your Master cannot be that impersonal and uncaring with you. I wonder if some of the emotional pain of knowing you won’t ever quite get it might add to the excitement of it. I can’t remember if you identify as a masochist, but masochism isn’t necessarily “just” a physical pain thing, but could mean getting pleasure out of fantasies that can never exist because it hurts to think that they won’t exist.

An intense fantasy, but not one that actually surprised me after reading your journal. (I’m the sort of person who when I found this journal went back and read all your back entries)

]]> By: swan http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3472 swan Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:38:57 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3472 Likewise. I too, have a nameless, mostly faceless, "male factor" that I masturbate to. I've had that same sinking feeling that there was some kind of lack of loyalty in that. Never really gotten what you've come to as to the "why." Makes sense. I also know that He fantasizes other women. I'm only just barely sort of OK with that -- not really much of a problem for me as long as I am pretty well sure that when He's hurting me, it is ME He has on His mind. If I get convinced that He's got somebody else pictured in His head while He's whaling the tar out of me, that sets me off completely. Love is indeed a tricky potion. swan Likewise. I too, have a nameless, mostly faceless, “male factor” that I masturbate to. I’ve had that same sinking feeling that there was some kind of lack of loyalty in that. Never really gotten what you’ve come to as to the “why.” Makes sense.

I also know that He fantasizes other women. I’m only just barely sort of OK with that — not really much of a problem for me as long as I am pretty well sure that when He’s hurting me, it is ME He has on His mind. If I get convinced that He’s got somebody else pictured in His head while He’s whaling the tar out of me, that sets me off completely.

Love is indeed a tricky potion.

swan

]]> By: TQM http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3471 TQM Tue, 18 Mar 2008 18:48:51 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3471 "Love is a tricky addition to a bdsm relationship, in ways you’d never see coming." A-fucking-men. “Love is a tricky addition to a bdsm relationship, in ways you’d never see coming.”

A-fucking-men.

]]> By: magpie http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3470 magpie Tue, 18 Mar 2008 18:35:46 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cyou-never-find-yourself-until-you-face-the-truth%e2%80%9d#comment-3470 It's so great that you answered that question today...perhaps TMI but last night as I was masturbating, lol, I tried to visualize Master but it always, ALWAYS ends up reverting back to my *standard* fantasy that doesn't include Him...(a dirty pool hall, about 3 men, broken pool cues and beer bottles, an alley behind the pool hall, and beaten to pulp then raped against a dumpster.) I worried for awhile that maybe my body decided He wasn't doing it for me anymore, or that it just wasn't *dirty* enough... ...I understand now that it's just not *anonymous* enough. And that's okay. I routinely visualize scenes we have done, and always His voice is a part of my masturbation, but when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, it's not his image in my mind. Great post! ~magpie It’s so great that you answered that question today…perhaps TMI but last night as I was masturbating, lol, I tried to visualize Master but it always, ALWAYS ends up reverting back to my *standard* fantasy that doesn’t include Him…(a dirty pool hall, about 3 men, broken pool cues and beer bottles, an alley behind the pool hall, and beaten to pulp then raped against a dumpster.) I worried for awhile that maybe my body decided He wasn’t doing it for me anymore, or that it just wasn’t *dirty* enough…

…I understand now that it’s just not *anonymous* enough. And that’s okay.

I routinely visualize scenes we have done, and always His voice is a part of my masturbation, but when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, it’s not his image in my mind.

Great post!

~magpie

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