Comments on: “Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely.” http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 07:08:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: dragonfly http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43325 dragonfly Mon, 08 Feb 2010 14:56:03 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43325 What if Team M only enjoys the game if Team s is enjoying it too? What if they play "extra" fair and bend the rules to help Team s so they have fun. And now Team s is not having fun because team M is making it easy on them, changing how Team M is playing so that Team s stays in a good mood for the game. This is such a damn fine line. No wonder we see players saying they just want to quit playing. What if Team M only enjoys the game if Team s is enjoying it too? What if they play “extra” fair and bend the rules to help Team s so they have fun. And now Team s is not having fun because team M is making it easy on them, changing how Team M is playing so that Team s stays in a good mood for the game. This is such a damn fine line. No wonder we see players saying they just want to quit playing.

]]> By: Tristan http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43323 Tristan Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:44:37 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43323 So I guess we agree. I would like to just add that it's part of the sub's job to inform the Dom that a mistake was made. It would be much better if the sub told the Dom that a mistake is about to take place. It saves the sub from discomfort beyond tolerance and saves face for the Dom. I'd be inclined to say that a sub can say anything to a Dom. How it's said is all that matters. Show respect and you'll get it back. [rq=2073995,0,blog][/rq]<a href="http://his.quietcontrol.org/archives/801" rel="nofollow">Power, corruption and the contract</a> So I guess we agree. I would like to just add that it’s part of the sub’s job to inform the Dom that a mistake was made. It would be much better if the sub told the Dom that a mistake is about to take place. It saves the sub from discomfort beyond tolerance and saves face for the Dom.

I’d be inclined to say that a sub can say anything to a Dom. How it’s said is all that matters. Show respect and you’ll get it back.
[rq=2073995,0,blog][/rq]Power, corruption and the contract

]]> By: hawkeye http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43322 hawkeye Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:46:14 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43322 the theory is that the D will run over the s simply because they can get away with it. I am saying that when the D is connected to the s through the soul by love this will never happen, except by way of the D making a mistake..in error. the theory is that the D will run over the s simply because they can get away with it. I am saying that when the D is connected to the s through the soul by love this will never happen, except by way of the D making a mistake..in error.

]]> By: Tristan http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43321 Tristan Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:59:00 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43321 Well, Hawkeye. Although not terribly contributory, your comment is probably somewhat true. I think throughout this post, however, the focus has been on relationships where love is a central component, yet boundaries are tested in relationships such as these and in the case of the sub that poses the problem of how to communicate while still maintaining the role. [rq=2073995,0,blog][/rq]<a href="http://his.quietcontrol.org/archives/801" rel="nofollow">Power, corruption and the contract</a> Well, Hawkeye. Although not terribly contributory, your comment is probably somewhat true. I think throughout this post, however, the focus has been on relationships where love is a central component, yet boundaries are tested in relationships such as these and in the case of the sub that poses the problem of how to communicate while still maintaining the role.
[rq=2073995,0,blog][/rq]Power, corruption and the contract

]]> By: Uh-oh becomes A-ha Part 2 | Insatiable Desire http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43320 Uh-oh becomes A-ha Part 2 | Insatiable Desire Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:41:52 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43320 [...] salvation came to me via kaya’s blogpost “Absolute Power” . It gave me a frame of expression. See, the thing i had been grappling with, unable to fully voice [...] [...] salvation came to me via kaya’s blogpost “Absolute Power” . It gave me a frame of expression. See, the thing i had been grappling with, unable to fully voice [...]

]]> By: hawkeye http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43319 hawkeye Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:09:07 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43319 what a lot of nonsense...love changes everything. If a person is in a BDSM relationship without love being present then they are an idiot. what a lot of nonsense…love changes everything. If a person is in a BDSM relationship without love being present then they are an idiot.

]]> By: WhiteFox http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43315 WhiteFox Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:58:39 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43315 The only problem I see with this is the very idea of absolute power. Their is no such thing. One of the reasons why many doms (me included) enjoy mind control stories so much is that even we understand that only with direct control of another's mind (which doesn't exist) do we truly have absolute power over them. In any D/s relationship ALL of the doms power over "their" sub exists because the sub CHOOSES gives it to them. And they can choose to stop giving it at any time. Everyone has a limit and if the dom crosses the subs limits, the sub will fight back, that's all their is to it. Their are few things more pathetic than a dom who suddenly finds out they have to get their own dam coffee. I've seen a few doms who crossed the line and found out their choices in life were suddenly limited to living in a "normal" relationship, living alone and paying a large alimony/child-support check each month, or retaliating and going to jail. All I need to know I learned in kindergarten: Play nice with your toys or you'll loose them. The only problem I see with this is the very idea of absolute power. Their is no such thing. One of the reasons why many doms (me included) enjoy mind control stories so much is that even we understand that only with direct control of another’s mind (which doesn’t exist) do we truly have absolute power over them.

In any D/s relationship ALL of the doms power over “their” sub exists because the sub CHOOSES gives it to them. And they can choose to stop giving it at any time. Everyone has a limit and if the dom crosses the subs limits, the sub will fight back, that’s all their is to it.

Their are few things more pathetic than a dom who suddenly finds out they have to get their own dam coffee. I’ve seen a few doms who crossed the line and found out their choices in life were suddenly limited to living in a “normal” relationship, living alone and paying a large alimony/child-support check each month, or retaliating and going to jail.

All I need to know I learned in kindergarten: Play nice with your toys or you’ll loose them.

]]> By: sable http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43314 sable Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:43:48 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43314 Sigh, that should say i wouldn't want a dom who wasn't. Dang fingers... Sigh, that should say i wouldn’t want a dom who wasn’t.

Dang fingers…

]]> By: sable http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43313 sable Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:43:07 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43313 i almost fell out of my chair. Yes, they are self-centered and demanding. I would want a dam who wasn't. So if that is criteria for being a great dom then NDG will make a GREAT one. LOL i almost fell out of my chair. Yes, they are self-centered and demanding. I would want a dam who wasn’t. So if that is criteria for being a great dom then NDG will make a GREAT one. LOL

]]> By: Tristan http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cpower-tends-to-corrupt-absolute-power-corrupts-absolutely-%e2%80%9d#comment-43311 Tristan Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:35:28 +0000 http://underhishand.com/?p=4636#comment-43311 crap.....try this http://his.quietcontrol.org crap…..try this http://his.quietcontrol.org

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