Comments on: “Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions.” http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d The trials and tribulations of my life as a slave. Thu, 17 May 2012 08:17:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mara Tudor http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3498 Mara Tudor Thu, 20 Mar 2008 19:40:01 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3498 <i>I fluctuate between a 14 and 16 and I’m heavier than 160. By 10 to 15lbs, depending on the time of the month.</i> Sounds like you're about the same size as me, then, except I think you carry it better. Mine seems to all be around my belly (which Master doesn't like) and my ass (which he likes very much!). I fluctuate between a 14 and 16 and I’m heavier than 160. By 10 to 15lbs, depending on the time of the month.

Sounds like you’re about the same size as me, then, except I think you carry it better. Mine seems to all be around my belly (which Master doesn’t like) and my ass (which he likes very much!).

]]> By: kaya http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3484 kaya Wed, 19 Mar 2008 15:36:48 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3484 tee hee! Thanks for detailing the paths and links. I love it! Thank you all for your answers. My ego is properly stroked. ;-) Hugs! tee hee! Thanks for detailing the paths and links. I love it!

Thank you all for your answers. My ego is properly stroked. ;-)

Hugs!

]]> By: sweet_slut http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3483 sweet_slut Wed, 19 Mar 2008 07:37:39 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3483 How I found you: ~~It's been a while but if I remember correctly, I found Toy's blog (probably by googling "fucktoy" since being a used as a fucktoy is one of my fondest fantasies/realities!) and I followed a link from there to your old LJ. "If you are one of the people who read it but don’t like or agree with what I say, WHY do you continue to read?" ~~I don't always like/agree with everything but it's always interesting! "Is there anything you’d want to see me make and sell? Craft ideas?" ~~There are these things for nursing moms -- I think they are called nursing supplementers -- but they are kinda expensive. Maybe you could find a cheaper way to make them so I could afford one! Basically, it's a plastic, refillable bag that you wear on a cord around your neck and it has a narrow little tube from the bottom of it that runs down to your nipple. (Or maybe 2 tubes, one for each nipple.) Anyway, nursing moms with a low milk supply can fill the bag with pumped breastmilk or formula to supplement the baby a the same time he's nursing at the breast. So the baby basically suckles the breast but also has the little tube in his mouth at the same time, so he gets extra fluid through it, too. My fantasy is to fill the bag with a nice red wine and let my Love drink from my breasts. (Well, the drink would really be coming from the tube, but he'd be sucking my tit, too, if you know what I mean!) One of my naughtier fantasies is working as a "waitress" in a bar where I serve all the drinks this way.;-) "I know I read other people and "steal" ideas for play from them all the time. Have you ever read us and gone off to do what we just did or do you shudder and say "Thank GOD we aren’t into that!"? " ~~I can't remember for sure if I've ever stole an idea from you, but probably not since I am submissive but not into pain. Sometimes I do shudder a bit. Breathplay and (ewwww)licking the toliet are two things that made me shudder. (Although, I do want my Love to pee in my mouth someday. I'm odd that way -- go figure.) "What do you really think of the ’cunt in a cage’ plan?" ~~Honestly, I can't see it working or either of you being happy with it longterm, but maybe we'll see! Love ya, sweet_slut How I found you:

~~It’s been a while but if I remember correctly, I found Toy’s blog (probably by googling “fucktoy” since being a used as a fucktoy is one of my fondest fantasies/realities!) and I followed a link from there to your old LJ.

“If you are one of the people who read it but don’t like or agree with what I say, WHY do you continue to read?”

~~I don’t always like/agree with everything but it’s always interesting!

“Is there anything you’d want to see me make and sell? Craft ideas?”

~~There are these things for nursing moms — I think they are called nursing supplementers — but they are kinda expensive. Maybe you could find a cheaper way to make them so I could afford one! Basically, it’s a plastic, refillable bag that you wear on a cord around your neck and it has a narrow little tube from the bottom of it that runs down to your nipple. (Or maybe 2 tubes, one for each nipple.) Anyway, nursing moms with a low milk supply can fill the bag with pumped breastmilk or formula to supplement the baby a the same time he’s nursing at the breast. So the baby basically suckles the breast but also has the little tube in his mouth at the same time, so he gets extra fluid through it, too. My fantasy is to fill the bag with a nice red wine and let my Love drink from my breasts. (Well, the drink would really be coming from the tube, but he’d be sucking my tit, too, if you know what I mean!) One of my naughtier fantasies is working as a “waitress” in a bar where I serve all the drinks this way.;-)

“I know I read other people and “steal” ideas for play from them all the time. Have you ever read us and gone off to do what we just did or do you shudder and say “Thank GOD we aren’t into that!”? ”

~~I can’t remember for sure if I’ve ever stole an idea from you, but probably not since I am submissive but not into pain. Sometimes I do shudder a bit. Breathplay and (ewwww)licking the toliet are two things that made me shudder. (Although, I do want my Love to pee in my mouth someday. I’m odd that way — go figure.)

“What do you really think of the ’cunt in a cage’ plan?”

~~Honestly, I can’t see it working or either of you being happy with it longterm, but maybe we’ll see!

Love ya,
sweet_slut

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3480 Anonymous Wed, 19 Mar 2008 01:08:25 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3480 To add to that - I asked Master, and he says he doesn't notice a height-induced impact, either. To add to that – I asked Master, and he says he doesn’t notice a height-induced impact, either.

]]> By: Anonymous http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3479 Anonymous Wed, 19 Mar 2008 01:07:51 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3479 I know the question wasn't directed at me, but I have some experience in the height difference department, as well. I am roughly 5'3" (and a half), while Master is 6'4". It doesn't cause us any real problems; no positions are eliminated by the height difference, it's just that in some cases he has a hard time kissing me during sex. The only real impact that it has made is that Master's height itself makes it damn near impossible for me to sit on a counter while he stands and fucks me. Other than that, nothing is really precluded or preferred as a result of our heights. I know the question wasn’t directed at me, but I have some experience in the height difference department, as well. I am roughly 5’3″ (and a half), while Master is 6’4″. It doesn’t cause us any real problems; no positions are eliminated by the height difference, it’s just that in some cases he has a hard time kissing me during sex. The only real impact that it has made is that Master’s height itself makes it damn near impossible for me to sit on a counter while he stands and fucks me. Other than that, nothing is really precluded or preferred as a result of our heights.

]]> By: alyson http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3476 alyson Tue, 18 Mar 2008 21:07:26 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3476 Seeing this whole list of names on this blog (with the exception of Ms. Pet and maybe AYT, although I didn't realize Ms. Pet linked here) was not something I ever expected to happen. I am very amused. (I read Ouch and all the blogs listed except for your friend's, I think) Seeing this whole list of names on this blog (with the exception of Ms. Pet and maybe AYT, although I didn’t realize Ms. Pet linked here) was not something I ever expected to happen. I am very amused. (I read Ouch and all the blogs listed except for your friend’s, I think)

]]> By: alyson http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3475 alyson Tue, 18 Mar 2008 21:05:13 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3475 I found you through a link on a livejournal group to one of your posts about balancing parenthood with BDSM. I kept reading because I liked your style and you were interesting. Most of your play is a lot heavier than anything my master and I do as we're less into pain that you and your Master are so every time I look at something and think "I really hope he doesn't want to do/get that" I know I probably don't have to worry (probably being the key word). That said, my master has shown definite interest in the Circle of Pain, although he'd probably have me make one since I think I have all the supplies here anyway. And I've definitely taken away thoughts for toys I would like to have (the inflatable butt plug is on that list), whether I get them or not is yet to be seen. As far as "cunt in a cage" goes, I don't think I could personally handle it in any sane way and keep any of the things that attracted my master to me in the first place. If you can fabulous and really if anyone can manage it, I think it will be you. I found you through a link on a livejournal group to one of your posts about balancing parenthood with BDSM. I kept reading because I liked your style and you were interesting.

Most of your play is a lot heavier than anything my master and I do as we’re less into pain that you and your Master are so every time I look at something and think “I really hope he doesn’t want to do/get that” I know I probably don’t have to worry (probably being the key word). That said, my master has shown definite interest in the Circle of Pain, although he’d probably have me make one since I think I have all the supplies here anyway. And I’ve definitely taken away thoughts for toys I would like to have (the inflatable butt plug is on that list), whether I get them or not is yet to be seen.

As far as “cunt in a cage” goes, I don’t think I could personally handle it in any sane way and keep any of the things that attracted my master to me in the first place. If you can fabulous and really if anyone can manage it, I think it will be you.

]]> By: Pagan http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3466 Pagan Tue, 18 Mar 2008 13:45:38 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3466 If you are one of the people who read it but don’t like or agree with what I say, WHY do you continue to read? I certainly don't agree with everything you say, nor have I loved everything you've had to say. I find your viewpoint interesting, and I can just identify with enough of it for it to be relevant to me. Cuz ya know - it's all about me. ;) Have you ever read us and gone off to do what we just did or do you shudder and say "Thank GOD we aren’t into that!"? Are you kidding? I'm a wimp. I can take a reasonably solid spanking (with a warmup), but that's really the only pain I find appealing. And I totally Top from the bottom. Doesn't always work, but it does often enough to reinforce the habit. LOL I don't have to want to follow someone's path to find their journey interesting. I also read because you seem real; starry-eyed tales do little for me. If you are one of the people who read it but don’t like or agree with what I say, WHY do you continue to read?

I certainly don’t agree with everything you say, nor have I loved everything you’ve had to say. I find your viewpoint interesting, and I can just identify with enough of it for it to be relevant to me. Cuz ya know – it’s all about me. ;)

Have you ever read us and gone off to do what we just did or do you shudder and say “Thank GOD we aren’t into that!”?

Are you kidding? I’m a wimp. I can take a reasonably solid spanking (with a warmup), but that’s really the only pain I find appealing. And I totally Top from the bottom. Doesn’t always work, but it does often enough to reinforce the habit. LOL

I don’t have to want to follow someone’s path to find their journey interesting.

I also read because you seem real; starry-eyed tales do little for me.

]]> By: Kezza http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3465 Kezza Tue, 18 Mar 2008 11:12:22 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3465 <b>Though I *am* interested in how people find it. </b> I got here via ErosBlog. And I found THAT because I was looking for (vanilla) porn :D. I was initially horrified - I think I came across some of the more intense things like the toilet stuff and cunt in a cage really early. And then it quickly became apparent that you had thoroughly thought through your life and were doing all these things because you wanted to. So after that I kept reading because (1) I hate judging other people's choice based on my own prejudices (2) you are <i>interesting</i>. And funny. I still think you're mad, but in a "I wouldn't do that in a fit" way not a "that woman has issues" way. So thanks for broadening my horizons. <b>What do you really think of the ’cunt in a cage’ plan? Realistic or completely insane and doomed to failure? </b> I'll be surprised if it's maintainable over periods more than a few weeks/months at a time... I think you'd end up with physical and mental health issues that would make you not any fun for your Master - I gather he likes you with personality. But what do I know about it (I can answer that - not much) so go for gold, who knows what will happen. Though I *am* interested in how people find it.

I got here via ErosBlog. And I found THAT because I was looking for (vanilla) porn :D.
I was initially horrified – I think I came across some of the more intense things like the toilet stuff and cunt in a cage really early. And then it quickly became apparent that you had thoroughly thought through your life and were doing all these things because you wanted to. So after that I kept reading because (1) I hate judging other people’s choice based on my own prejudices (2) you are interesting. And funny.

I still think you’re mad, but in a “I wouldn’t do that in a fit” way not a “that woman has issues” way. So thanks for broadening my horizons.

What do you really think of the ’cunt in a cage’ plan? Realistic or completely insane and doomed to failure?

I’ll be surprised if it’s maintainable over periods more than a few weeks/months at a time… I think you’d end up with physical and mental health issues that would make you not any fun for your Master – I gather he likes you with personality. But what do I know about it (I can answer that – not much) so go for gold, who knows what will happen.

]]> By: Brooke http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3464 Brooke Tue, 18 Mar 2008 09:09:03 +0000 http://underhishand.com/%e2%80%9cconfidence-like-art-never-comes-from-having-all-the-answers-it-comes-from-being-open-to-all-the-questions%e2%80%9d#comment-3464 I foudnt his journal through a google search - I believe on "safe word" or some such. Anyway, what came up was that list you posted once upon a time... Submissive no-nos, basically. It absolutely cracked me up. I was just starting to learn about the lifestyle, and my own role in it, and I find your journal to be well thought-out, introspective, interesting, witty, and frequently helpful (enough ego stroking for you? ;p) To be perfectly blunt I find some of the things you say and practice to be down right disturbing. But fuck, who the hell am I to judge? No, I don't agree with everything about your life but that's because it's YOUR life and you're living it YOUR way. Not mine. I continue to read because I find your journal to be all of the things I mentioned in that last paragraph, and because I think it's always a good idea to get a good look at the things you don't aggree with. 'Cause sometimes it turns out you do aggree with them. And if you still don't... well, now you're a more well informed individual. As for the others? Some people just thrive on conflict. It's very nearly an illness, I think. There are times when I read what you do and I absolutely shudder. But there are times when I read and just plain old turn green with envy. It's been a good while since I've been in a position to use any ideas I might "steal" from you... but believe me when I'm in that position again I'm sure I'll be thanking you. Or possibly cursing your name, lol. The cunt in a cage idea is one of the things on your journal that I have to admit I find kind of disturbing. In large part, I think, because I could just imagine getting so damn <i>bored</i> with it! But like I said before: Who am I to judge? I'm absolutely no one. As far as how realistic it is... I wish you absolutely all the best if it's what will make you and your Master happy. It seems to me that the logistics of it could be awfully difficult, but difficult doesn't mean impossible. If there is a way I hope you find it. I foudnt his journal through a google search – I believe on “safe word” or some such. Anyway, what came up was that list you posted once upon a time… Submissive no-nos, basically. It absolutely cracked me up. I was just starting to learn about the lifestyle, and my own role in it, and I find your journal to be well thought-out, introspective, interesting, witty, and frequently helpful (enough ego stroking for you? ;p)

To be perfectly blunt I find some of the things you say and practice to be down right disturbing. But fuck, who the hell am I to judge? No, I don’t agree with everything about your life but that’s because it’s YOUR life and you’re living it YOUR way. Not mine. I continue to read because I find your journal to be all of the things I mentioned in that last paragraph, and because I think it’s always a good idea to get a good look at the things you don’t aggree with. ‘Cause sometimes it turns out you do aggree with them. And if you still don’t… well, now you’re a more well informed individual. As for the others? Some people just thrive on conflict. It’s very nearly an illness, I think.

There are times when I read what you do and I absolutely shudder. But there are times when I read and just plain old turn green with envy. It’s been a good while since I’ve been in a position to use any ideas I might “steal” from you… but believe me when I’m in that position again I’m sure I’ll be thanking you. Or possibly cursing your name, lol.

The cunt in a cage idea is one of the things on your journal that I have to admit I find kind of disturbing. In large part, I think, because I could just imagine getting so damn bored with it! But like I said before: Who am I to judge? I’m absolutely no one. As far as how realistic it is… I wish you absolutely all the best if it’s what will make you and your Master happy. It seems to me that the logistics of it could be awfully difficult, but difficult doesn’t mean impossible. If there is a way I hope you find it.

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